Hi Theresa,

Great advice.  Now tell me when you were the mother of the bride/groom how did
that go.  I listen to music from the 70,80 and 90.  Since I am a former ballroom
dancer still like to build choreography's is my mind.

Liza




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From: theresa hebert <Rodalways70512@...>
To: womenwithsci@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Tuesday, February 3, 2009 6:40:40 PM
Subject: Re: [Women with SCI] HI


Hi All,
 It sure is not the easiest thing to have a child and deal with all you have to
deal with just being in a chair. I think having my children taught me alot about
myself, never did I think I could deal with a baby and be in a chair. But it
really came natural, of course I had a 3 year old at the time of my accident, so
in a way bringing another child into our life was just a blessing. Of course
sure some thought I was completely nuts, haaaaaaaaaaa. Anyway my oldest was 9 at
the time I had my second, and not like she really helped, but just was easier
her being older. When my son was born 4 years later, I said okay that's enough
kids, cause actually I didn't even think of getting pregnant, don't ask why it
never cross my mind , cause I was having regular periods. Here's a good one for
ya'll , when my son was 4 months old he weighed 22 lbs, can you imagine picking
him up, haaaaa. Wouldn't have traded him for the world. I miss my babies being
babies, but I
do have 4 grankids who are my reason to go on. Bryce ,12, Grant ,7, Hannah, 10,
and Alexis 6. I don't think it ever crossed the minds of the kids that went to
school with my children as to why their mom was in a wheelchair cause most of
the kids knew me. We live in a very small town and most people know each other
or their family. Just like at my grandkids school, they go to the same school my
kids went to and not once has a child asked why was I in a chair. Some stare,
but I think my granddaughters have told some, oh, she was in a wreck and broke
her neck and when you do that you can't walk anymore. Kids will be kids and say
whatever comes to mind, so just like life whatever comes up, deal with it or
not. I choose to live my life day by day and have no regrets about anything, oh
one, am getting older, but actually would never want to be in the dating world
nowadays.
 I'm not sure how to start this, so just will ask, What if any type of music
does everyone listen to?? Have to tell ya'll ,I am a die hard ROD STEWART fan
and go to as many of his concerts as I can. Hubby says he wish he would retire,
but told him, but then what would I do. If anyone has seen him in concert sure
they would agree with me that he puts on one great show. And of course he kicks
soccer balls out to the crowd, ( more on that later), and I am lucky enough to
have come home with 2 signed soccer balls by him. My grandkids always ask to
play with them, but no way will that happen. Hubby and son-in-law said when I
die they are going to sell them, I told them I wanted to be buried with them,
but they said I'll never know. Told them I will come back and haunt them if they
don't bury them with me. Ok girls, my back is killing me and almost time for
american idol, I don't usually watch all the way through, but like the early
shows to see who gets cut.
This has been great that this site finally has some action, keep it going girls,
looking forward to next letter. Take care and stay warm if it is cold where you
are.
Later, Theresa in Louisiana
REASON TO BELIEVE

--- On Tue, 2/3/09, Liza Perez <lmp9107@yahoo. com> wrote:
From: Liza Perez <lmp9107@yahoo. com>
Subject: Re: [Women with SCI] HI
To: womenwithsci@ yahoogroups. com
Date: Tuesday, February 3, 2009, 10:27 AM

Hi Rebecca,

OK,how did you handle your girl  and the grocery cart all by yourself?  My girls
friends often have questions regarding how I  do  things and they encourage them
to ask me.  They are very proud of all the things I can do and I also tell them
that this is an opportunity to teach other people.  I am not planning to have
more kids but will like to be an active grandma so thanks for the tips and
please keep them coming.  Because your girl is young this is a good time to
network with other parents, it becomes a little more difficult in middle school.
Be very proactive and volunteer as much as possible is her school.  They are
always is need of helpers.  I learn this from one of my male mentors,  "never
hesitate to ask for help". 

Like someone once said "To accomplish great things, we must not only act but
also dream, not only plan but also believe"

 Liza

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From: Rebecca Sanchez <mrsldyinwheels@ yahoo.com>

To: womenwithsci@ yahoogroups. com

Sent: Monday, February 2, 2009 10:40:14 PM

Subject: [Women with SCI] HI

Hi Lisa!

   My daughter is only 5yrs so hope that i can help you even just a little
bit..... :) OKay i admit having a baby and being n a w/c was not the easist
thing n the world! Until my daughter reached the stage where she could sit up on
her own, it was very difficult but i managed... :) when she reached the stage
where she could sit up on her own, i used one of those things that you use to
carry ur baby in u drap and fasten it on, then put the baby in it, it made it
easy and it was safe for both of us......I think toddlers know that you are in a
w/c i didn't really have a problem with her, of course there were the times that
she would run away from me n walmart, but i just had to be patient and teach her
that i could not run after her, and i had her hold on to the arm of my w/c which
she still does to this day.... I think the scareist thought for me (and maybe
cos we didn't have her in daycare much) was when i sent her off to school (head
start) wow that

was an emotional time! It was hard on me becuase the kids would ask her 'what
happend to your mommy", and i'd go home and cry...i contemplated the thought of
telling the kids myself but on thier terms that they can understand. however,
somebody once told me to leave her be and when shes ready she'll tell them, it's
her life and not to make my life into hers by forcing her to tell. i dont know
if anyone has ever heard of him but there is a song called "Walking on my
Wheels" by Dan Crow, it's for childern, its cute and says it in thier
terms...but again, i gotta let her do it herself. Of course when i went grocery
shopping w/my tot in tow, i'd get the mean glances but so what! i have EVERY
RIGHT to be at the store just the same as an 'abled bodied' person..... it would
be nice to hear from others on this:) sorry if i wasn't informative as i should
be..... i'll think back and see if i can pull some other tips from my mem. LOL
however through it all,

remember you can hug them, kiss them, and love them and you don't need legs for
that!!! :)

 

Rebecca :)

 

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