Hi Rebecca,

OK,how did you handle your girl  and the grocery cart all by yourself?  My girls
friends often have questions regarding how I  do  things and they encourage them
to ask me.  They are very proud of all the things I can do and I also tell them
that this is an opportunity to teach other people.  I am not planning to have
more kids but will like to be an active grandma so thanks for the tips and
please keep them coming.  Because your girl is young this is a good time to
network with other parents, it becomes a little more difficult in middle school.
Be very proactive and volunteer as much as possible is her school.  They are
always is need of helpers.  I learn this from one of my male mentors,  "never
hesitate to ask for help". 

Like someone once said "To accomplish great things, we must not only act but
also dream, not only plan but also believe"

 Liza


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From: Rebecca Sanchez <mrsldyinwheels@...>
To: womenwithsci@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, February 2, 2009 10:40:14 PM
Subject: [Women with SCI] HI


Hi Lisa!
   My daughter is only 5yrs so hope that i can help you even just a little
bit..... :) OKay i admit having a baby and being n a w/c was not the easist
thing n the world! Until my daughter reached the stage where she could sit up on
her own, it was very difficult but i managed... :) when she reached the stage
where she could sit up on her own, i used one of those things that you use to
carry ur baby in u drap and fasten it on, then put the baby in it, it made it
easy and it was safe for both of us......I think toddlers know that you are in a
w/c i didn't really have a problem with her, of course there were the times that
she would run away from me n walmart, but i just had to be patient and teach her
that i could not run after her, and i had her hold on to the arm of my w/c which
she still does to this day.... I think the scareist thought for me (and maybe
cos we didn't have her in daycare much) was when i sent her off to school (head
start) wow that
was an emotional time! It was hard on me becuase the kids would ask her 'what
happend to your mommy", and i'd go home and cry...i contemplated the thought of
telling the kids myself but on thier terms that they can understand. however,
somebody once told me to leave her be and when shes ready she'll tell them, it's
her life and not to make my life into hers by forcing her to tell. i dont know
if anyone has ever heard of him but there is a song called "Walking on my
Wheels" by Dan Crow, it's for childern, its cute and says it in thier
terms...but again, i gotta let her do it herself. Of course when i went grocery
shopping w/my tot in tow, i'd get the mean glances but so what! i have EVERY
RIGHT to be at the store just the same as an 'abled bodied' person..... it would
be nice to hear from others on this:) sorry if i wasn't informative as i should
be..... i'll think back and see if i can pull some other tips from my mem. LOL
however through it all,
remember you can hug them, kiss them, and love them and you don't need legs for
that!!! :)
 
Rebecca :)

 

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