My name is Becki. I have an incomplete SCI at the T10 level. Three
years ago I had heart surgery to correct a fatal birth defect and
woke up partially paralyzed, unable to stand, move some ways, feel
some things. After three years I am now walking on crutches. I live
completely independently, work full time, am single and have 2 cats
and a dog.

I've been seeking out support systems because my friends just can't
relate to the problems I have. I've even started a Yahoo group for
people in my area, though there aren't any members yet.

As a single 32 (almost) year old woman who is a major failure in the
dating world (especially post injury), I struggle a lot with
loneliness. I've been thinking a lot lately about either adopting a
child or having one naturally with some help from a donor. My whole
life I always "knew" I would have children, and it's painful to be
32 and not see that dream anywhere close to coming to fruition.

I would be interested in hearing from other women who had children
post injury. What types of adjustments did you make, how do you
handle the things that scare me...like children running away from
you (I can't run), what tools did you find most useful, things like
that. This is just in thinking phase right now...I'm only
considering this as a last resort if I hit 35 and still have no
prospects.

I hope to learn more about the people here. :)
Becki