You son could very well be acting out because of the stress in the home. CPS has parenting classes. I suggest you speak to them about classes that could help...
Alina, You're just like the rest of us...full of energy and zest for life that has been sucked out of us. You're getting it back. it can't help but come back...
I agree with Kim. I think you husband is trying to undermine you parenting abilities. Your son is picking up on this and acting out....it might make him feel...
You didn't offend anyone. My sister was a school nurse and she has lots of stories about parents ;>) If we could only get along.... Marilyn ... have had bad...
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! You are all so wonderful with all of your wisdom on these issues. I will definately try replacing all the "you's" to "I's"....
Thanks for the advice. I knew this was sexual abuse, just didn't think I could be experiencing it in adulthood...maybe I didn't want to admit it. But seeing it...
Dear Alina, Your husband sounds exactly like my husband. It is always about money, and it is always my fault. We don’t have a bigger house or fancier cars,...
Hello Ladies, I haven't posted on here in a while, but I have been reading the posts and they definitely help me keep my head on straight and keep my hopes up...
Val, The hard part is coming. You may have to let him torch the house, or throw you stuff out the window in order for him to see that it is HIS behavior that...
This is not about "anger" it's about his "abusiveness." Don't let him think he's angry that's not the problem, he's abusive. Don't whitewash it. The bible says...
I wrote this to one woman on the group a few years ago. Although it was directed toward another woman the concept is there. Abuse is about control and...
I appreciate everyone's help. I realize what is going on and it scares me especially since I still live with his dad. Anything I do is wrong. He listens to...
Right how you just have to work on you. You're not making any long term decisions now. Well, two long term decisons. 1. Do self reflecting and start to not...
Marilyn, Thank you so much for the advice. I will work on my inner-strength this week and next weekend if he is as "wonderful" as he was this one I will walk...
Question How do you get an abuser to recognize the abuse for what it is? Answer I think the bottom line is recognizing that no one method will work for...
How to Become a 'Non-Person' ~by Tigress Luv The thing you must know about your life is that you have choices. You have options. You have rights. You are not a...
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... you ... you ... The abuse got worse for me. The control by words or expressions just didn't have the same effect on me so he started to use physical ...
Jean, There are so many aspects to this. If he is bipolar then his treatment can only help him with that aspect. It's important to take the one issue at a...
I listen to books on tape. Currently I'm reading (having read to me) Terms of Endearment. I thought about watching the movie but immediately I saw that the ...
(((Val))) It's about CONTROL; abuse is ALL about control. If he sees you getting stronger (standing up for yourself); he fears he is losing his control over...
CPS is coming to my house this morning to talk about getting counseling for my son and I before husband gets home around noon. He still doesn't know. I spent...
I agree with you, Alice, about stop trying to figure out the abuser's insanity. It is a pointless waste of time, because there is no reason! All we can do is...
Alina, This post really resonated within me. I can't tell you how many friends and family members told me the same thing. "You aren't the same person...
Jean, I am so glad to hear from you! It sounds as if you are making your way. I am happy for you. I felt the same way before I left my ex-rat. I felt...
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