Idel, Helping one person understand this stuff is enough for me. If this emotional mess that I've gone through is used for a good purpose then it was worth...
Idel, My experience when discussing things with my husband was that when I brought up an important issue, let's say "When you call me fat I feel sad because...
Terrianne, I'm a Christian. This is a topic I'm aware of. I've also done a lot of research about the church and the role of women and wives. One of the verses...
Is there anyone who has stayed in their relationship and the man has changed. Mine has now read Verbally Abusive Relationship (encouraged because I wouldn't...
Dear Callie, I wish you all of the luck in the world. I wish I could say that some abusers change. If yours does he will be an exception to the rule. My male...
Domestic Violence is anti-discriminatory. It affects people from all walks of life. It comes in many forms. Most people are not even aware they’re being...
Callie, You will know if he has changed. My husband also read books but he continued. Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry Men by Lundy Bancroft has...
Dear callie, I too hope yours does change. I too sayed for 28 yrs. I hoped oever and over again that every time mine cried and begged and said he realized what...
Question Hi After 8 years of single life, I have finally begun dating. Until today, I thought he was about as close to perfect as possible...thoughtful,...
A Recovering Abuser Speaks "There are no shortcuts to any place worth going." -Beverly Sills July 30, 2000 My name is Bill, late 50s, a verbal abuser - seeking...
i gave my X all this material and he read it, we discussed it, we cried, he promised, we made all sorts of plans. however, the next big fight we had and i put...
Well that was an interesting read. I still dont believe my ex when he tries to deny or excuse his abuse away. It just doesnt work for me. For me there is NO...
Marilyn Thank you for understanding my frustrations. As a Christian doing my own biblical study I became convinced I did do the right thing by filing for...
I'm sorry but I don't care how a person was raised there is no excuse to be abusive. I had a really messed up childhood and I could have become abusive but I...
Lauren, thank you so much for the gentle hugs & prayers. I really appreciate the support. I feel very alone. I am seeing that the more I stand strong &...
Marilyn, your last line cracked me up. I haven't let him even touch me in a month. I don't know how long it will be before I even want to have sex with him....
Terrianne, I am there with you, my husband has not paid anything for many months now, almost a year...wow. It has been the hardest thing I've ever experienced...
Dear Callie ~ I stayed. Those are the two hardest words I have ever spoken - considering how much I wanted to go. I have done everything to leave - changed...
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Domestic Violence Site Jeanette Stingley BellaOnline's Domestic Violence Editor Life After Abuse I had many supportive people around me and my children. I...
Kandi, it helps more than you know. When I read your words that I'm not alone, tears filled my eyes. I will be e-mailing you right away. I admire you for...
Oh, Terriann and Marilyn: I stayed for 31 years (36 in all), and when I got the courage to get the divorce..I.was "wounded in the house of my friends." As...
Dear Callie, I know that you are experiencing inner turmoil and soul searching. I could have been a poster child for codependency. I am in a position where I...
Alicia..the church voted you out?!! Gads!! What nerve. Ya know what girlfriend? ... your birthday is coming up..you go out, get a free Merle Norman make over,...
At dinner last night, I mentioned to my husband this group (no specifics, no names, not even the group name, not even the search engine) & the benefits of...
Callie, Have you tried looking at any groups listed under the words "positive" or "positive change" ? Change is good, but will only work if he is committed for...
Lauren, thank you so much for your support & kind caring words. Congrats on the date, keep me posted. I appreciate the advice about pity too. Before all...
My children are adults or considered young adults, but the brainwashing of the ex/his family doesn't allow independant thought from what dad says. As...
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