I love the word "everyone." Everyone...ALL of your family, ALL of your friends,
ALL of the people in your town, ALL of your state, ALL of this country thinks
you're a whore.

Well in that case I'm one of the "everyone" that he is including. I don't think
that any woman is a "whore" because she doesn't see skin color as a deterent
from seeing a person for who they are. A person who isn't predujiced allows
others to be themselves and is open for an honest and respectful relationship
that may include intimacy on different levels.

If that's the only ammunition he has left in his dumpster of hate to throw at
you then he's really reaching deep and ~he~ is smelling like an old dirty
dumpster....

But that is the one that got to you...why?

BTW....if you had sex with any man in your past, no matter what his skin color,
you would still be considered a whore by him. Another thing to consider is the
difference that "men" have between their many sexual conquests and women's
sexual relationships with other men. They may have had sex with 50 different
women but if we had sex with 5 different partners in our past then we are whores
and they are studs.

For ~yourself~ if you think you need to apologize then you should. That doesn't
mean you have to have a relationship with him if you apologize...that just makes
you the better person for admitting when you were wrong.

In the future just speak to him in love and with respect so that you don't ever
feel like you have to eat your words again. You just lashed out because of
frustation and anger on his not owning his part of the deal with the house. He's
been stringing you along for quite awhile now if I remember correctly.

Marilyn


--- In womansemotionalabusesupport@yahoogroups.com, "bonnie" <blpittenger@...>
wrote:
>
> I am divorced from an abusive husband for 3 yrs now. But because we own a
house together and it needs extensive work my ex agreed to help repair the
things he did that are not passing inspection to sell the house, I have put up
with him for months now and the last straw was yesterday when he said everyone
thinks I am a whore because I date black men. My family, friends, and him. I was
so hurt and devistated I later told him off in a fit of anger and said " I don't
care if you drop dead today" Now this is not just from what he said that hurt
but from all the years of abuse and him never admitting to it or getting help
for it. I just had enough and the nice me said don't let him treat you that way
anymore. So I let him have it. Was I wrong? Should I appoligize? I did not wish
him dead but I did say I don't care if he dies because I can't stand having him
staulk me, harass me, belittle me, and abuse me anymore.
>
> Bonnie
>
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