Put the photo album away! Seriously. You are in danger of forgetting the bad
times, as time goes by things become less fresh & you may beging to doubt
yourself, thinking maybe it wasn't so ba after all. Start a journal if you
haven't already on all the abuse, what was said, circumstances, etc & look at
that instead of the photo album when you get lonely.
Dana
It helped for me.
--- In womansemotionalabusesupport@yahoogroups.com, "katonsink" <katonsink@...>
wrote:
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> I have now been away from my abuser for two weeks. In that time, I have
secured a place to live, and have been able to get the majority of my things
moved. I miss his warm body, and his smell. The abuse was bad, but the sex was
good. I am feeling pretty good. After my first visit back to the house, I was
almost inconsolable (sp?); it still amazes me that he is so totally unable to
love anyone. He says he still loves me, but I don't think that he really ever
did. He is also sure that this is only temporary. His exact words to me a couple
of days ago were, "Some day you're going to wise up and forget this nonsense..."
Can you believe it? WTF? I'm almost settled in to the new place, and have
already started doing things with girlfriends after work to help stave off some
of the emptiness. How long does it take before seeing him in an old photo album
doesn't make you wish things were different? I only wanted him to love me. Was
it really as bad as I think it was? I only wanted something closer to a "normal"
relationship. SIGH.
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