Kelly...you are very good at expressing yourself and your feelings,
as per your message. I wish you could read it like I did. I don't
know him...but I hate him! It just makes me SO mad when they "work
us"!! Your eyes are definately seeing the whole picture....but your
heart is not. That deal where he calls your stomach "wrong" and
such...well it obviously is him looking for buttons to push to get
you worked up. That button worked fine, for him. It made you
feel "less than" and they seem to thrive on that. Jumping through
burning hoops, thats how I see it.

My take is this: YES. You are once again being abused and you
should quit (in your time) questioning whether he is, or not,
abusive. He is meeting very little (if any) of your needs, as he
obviously is into his own self, only. Your story made me feel sad.
I hate it when good women go through this sort of stuff. I did for
almost 10 years and it took its toll on me. Please don't let it do
the same on you, or your kids. When you have your decision to want
better....we'll be here for you! Everything you wrote about your
relationship was...negative. I know, I know, you didn't write much
of the "good stuff"...and that is because there is not nearly enough
of it!

Kelly, how you reacted about the Asian child being abducted left you
feeling pathetic....because he made you feel that way. It was a
motherly reaction and not inappropriate in ANY way. You're being
slowly sucked into his madness and I am sorry. When you're ready to
want better....we'll all breath a sigh of relief! I truly feel for
you! Dana