Hi I actually have a question for a family member. She recently met
a controlling guy who demands that she call him at a certain time...
is angry when she suggests they end a conversation on the phone
after 5 hours.... there are so many red flags. Anyway..This guy has
such an obsession about getting her pregnant. He says he loves her
and wants children right away (they actually got married today
against my often heard objections) and he said they are going to
keep trying and trying as soon as they get married to get pregnant.
He has sent her very detailed emails on how he would get her
pregant. I know there are healthy couples who want to concieve...
but this is so over the top. Anyway... my question is is that could
this be any way related to his controlling nature? I know that the
most dangerous time for her physically would be while she is
pregnant. Maybe he has a desire to see her weak? I am at a loss...
most abusers view the baby as an intruder and extra strain on the
relationship. This guy is also not so great with kids... I am almost
positive that he does not have a legitimate desire to reproduct. Any
thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou.