This I absolutely agree on...my other repsonse to this post was supposed to be
humorous.....dont fall into the honeymoon trap..it will just delay your
independence. Stay strong my sister!

normalmemphisgirl <normalmemphisgirl@...> wrote: You know what to
do! recognize this as the abuse cycle and don't get
sucked in.

1. Incident
2. Honeymoon
3. Tension Building

repeat.

--- In womansemotionalabusesupport@yahoogroups.com, "lynlee39"
<lynlee39@...> wrote:
>
> Last night after this week-end he told me he thought about me all
> day and said he was so sorry for the way he was this week-end and
> that he could never live without me, and all I said yeah, I
> know.....he said I do NOT want you to live and I said Yeah, I
know.
>
> But the thing is I am so OVER......I am so tired of being treated
> this way and I know that I can NOT change him and the thing is he
> doesn't think he has a problem so he doesn't think he has anything
> to change so he will never change and I have two options live like
I
> am now and maybe lose my kids or leave, make a safe, secure, stable
> environment for myself and my kids. So I talked to the apts where
I
> have rented a place and it will be ready to move in the 19th. Me
and
> the kids are excited but I am scared to death at the sametime, i
> have just been told over and over again that I could never make it
> on my own. But I know I will be ok but the other side of my brain
> says "No he is right, you will never survive without him"
>
> I am reading this book "Overcoming Verbal abuse" and it has been
> really helpful talking about REBT where they do not condon the
abuse
> but they talk about how we internalize over and over and how those
> negative thoughts keeps us beat down and it WOW I never realized
> that is what I do ALL of the time. Its a must read book. AFter
> this one I am going to continue to read more on this until I am
sane
> again.
>
> What would you do?????
>






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