my mom saw the email I wrote about hearing another girl on his
voicemail..she thought it had something to do with an std but i told
her how it was a "cold" she was talking about (forget to mention
that part)..anyways, she was like "why do you bother going to
therapy if it doesn't even help? you have been with him for over a
year now and you still don't get it? I just feel bad for you that
you are willing to stay with a cheat!" I felt myself get really
defensive and saying that I didn't know for sure from a simple
message like that. I knew I was just defending him as we all do. I
was so embarrased that she saw that though. i don't tell her
anything that he does that is mean because I know she'd think i was
a moron for staying with him. my therapist works with me on my self
esteem and says how he believes I am with him now for the
convenience (i am also in school and have no time to date). the past
week or so he's been EXTRA nice to me. I mean more than he really
ever has been. do the honeymoon phases get better as the abusve
phases get worse? when he came home the other evening he was
hugging me nonstop, saying how much he loved me and it almost looked
like he was crying. it was as if something went wrong, really
strange. he's never hugged me like that before. It was almost as
if he was guilty of something.