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Re: [wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome] Re: my dad has reached a point, I dont know what to do next?

Hi Sunni - sorry I don't check this very often but just saw your messages.  My dad has been living w/ WKS for about 5 yrs now.  He lives in assisted living - which is paid for through Social Security Disabilty, he doesn't have any money.  I too am a single mom & the asstd living facility gives me peace of mind that he won't hurt himself, get lost or burn the house down.  Although I feel HUGE guilt over him being there.  He is allowed to smoke there & boy does he ever..  Like a chimney!! The places that allow smoking are dwindling but they are out there.  Adult Protective Services & social services helped him (&me) tremendously in the beginning i recommend you talk to them. 
 
Good luck - this is a horrible disease - nobody seems to know a lot about. I'm hoping some of the stem cell research happening now will one day be able to help our loved ones. 
 

 


From: sunniibunnii71 <sunniibunnii71@...>
To: wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, May 27, 2009 9:27:41 PM
Subject: [wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome] Re: my dad has reached a point, I dont know what to do next?

--- In wernicke-korsakoff_ syndrome@ yahoogroups. com, Nora <dulcineasmom@ ...> wrote:
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> Hi Sunni,
>  
> I'm still here.  Have you thought of a "live-in" nurse's aide or some such caregiver?
>  
> Good Luck
> Nora
>
Thanks for the great ideas..and replies...were still up in the air on what to do afraid aides, and ass living will take his pension that he has debts to pay he is responsible for. here is how today was...took dad to cash 45.00 irs check he lost his ID so we had to go far away bank and he was over drawn 500.00 but they did it they gave him 45.00 anyway and said he can come in Friday and dispute some of the penalties from his act..so that will help some..his car must get out of the impound it costs 20.00 daily..baught a 24 pack of beer for 14.00 a 1 pack cigs tomorrow withe his 15,00 he has left i will gethis 22.00 carton of cigs in town..while im there taking my mom to emergency room finally for her leg..I told dad I will not be able to check on him thursday at all Im booked solid and have apts in new braunfels..so we got some tv dinners he likes etc..when i unloaded the car my seat was soaking wet...URINE. .i just now GOT HOME AND CLEANED OUT THE CAR AND ITS BED TIME, more tome i havent been abloe top spend with my 7 year old son.. already another day from hell...last night he walked to my house for beer...so the message to get accross here is he must have moey for beer and cigs and i must be the one to deliver them to him since i live close by..so DANI..we need to get a budget for his cigs and beer set up...so i wont have to take chanes of him walking to my house in all hours of the night..and him stealing from me...he goes through my purse and glopve box for change..he cant be trusted..my mom agreed to care for him..as long as she gets a few breaksaway too..sounds reasonable to me..and fair...he is nice..ande easier to get along with but he wants to paint the house...inside witha skeleton and a red heart..ha I said lets get poster board and he said ok..he heard jennifers husband shooting his gun the other day...now he wants to shoot..hgis gun out side too at cans..hell no...what about kids animals..he is fine if he has what he needs..for now..let s just wait and see how keeping him satisfied..etc. .one day at a time..and I do need to vent...so this is me venting..ha my mom says as long as they have a phone she will be there for emergencies. .no one has any money left...does anyone in the family want to help witha cheap phone?? so they have it?? that would be a big help...I lfte the house at 715got home at 815...doing stuff for everyone but Phoenix and myself..these days will grow old fast..we need a plan and as long as he has $ for his habits he willbe ok and that means so will I<>..




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Hello..its been a long time since I have posted or read orbeen in touch. My dad is Bill the fireman, who has been on and off..his WKS has reached a point where...
sunniibunnii71
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May 26, 2009
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One option would be to call the county's Adult Protective Services (or the equivalent). He sounds gravely disabled, unable to manage his own financial...
Dana Mulvany
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May 27, 2009
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Hi Sunni,   I'm still here.  Have you thought of a "live-in" nurse's aide or some such caregiver?   Good Luck Nora Hi Sunni, I'm still here. Have you...
Nora
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May 27, 2009
12:33 pm

... Thanks for the great ideas..and replies...were still up in the air on what to do afraid aides, and ass living will take his pension that he has debts to...
sunniibunnii71
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May 28, 2009
1:28 am

Hi Sunni - sorry I don't check this very often but just saw your messages.  My dad has been living w/ WKS for about 5 yrs now.  He lives in assisted living -...
Lisa Weaver
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Jun 5, 2009
1:12 am

I went to the beach a few days with my son on a much needed get away..and were back..on May 30Th my dad walked to my house demanding my car and money s when he...
sunni stalbird
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Jun 7, 2009
3:17 am

You did the right thing, you can not let him put you, your mom, or your son in danger.  My husband was never violent but by the time he agreed to go to rehab,...
kelli flynt
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Jun 8, 2009
9:31 pm

... I agree. Sunni's father made a choice a long time ago to ruin his body and brain with the effects of alcohol and thiamine deprivation. What's happening...
Dana Mulvany
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Jun 8, 2009
10:45 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me it really helps more than anything..all the options and ideas...blessings sunni ... From: kelli flynt...
sunni stalbird
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Jun 9, 2009
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I agree that videotaping may help him understand.  But also, he may be past the point of being able to understand what he is doing and may see the tape and...
Nora
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Jun 9, 2009
8:01 pm

I always said I would tape record or video tape him...never got the chance he is sitting in jail for 7 days now..calling to get bailed out..I was told to go to...
sunni stalbird
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Jun 9, 2009
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Can you ask your father to agree to go to the 90 day rehab facility as a condition of dropping the charges? In other words, get him to agree to go there (in...
Dana Mulvany
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