Thank you so much for listening and for your help. He does have
trouble walking at times, but I attribute that to being drunk. His
eyes sometimes go off in different directions (really strange) but
then again, drunkeness can do that too. As for his walking, if he
tumbles, it could be from being drunk. A close friend of mine (for
over 35 years) said the other day that she noticed he walks
different, like an old man or something. Can't put her finger on it,
but something's different. He can't do menial tasks either, such as
take a picture w/the camera or he can't figure out why the remote
control isn't working (it's cause he's not pressing the right
buttons!). But to listen to him, night after night, not making any
kind of sense and rambling and repeating, is becoming very
frustrating to me. It is a life of hell sometimes, and I get to the
point where I just cry and wish it were all over with. I pray to God
every day to lift this burden from me, unfortunately, it will only
come in time. I have thought about transferring the deed, but how
can I get him to sign it when he doesn't realize anything, then he'll
think I'm trying to pull one over on him or something. Trust me,
there's no rationalizing with him at all, he doesn't follow not one
conversation. He doesn't eat at all for days sometimes, I truly
don't know how he functions (and yes, he does work!!!!, don't know
how, but he does), I think people feel sorry for him. I do too at
times, but it all becomes much to much. Thanks for listening. Terri

--- In wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com, "Bill & Amanda"
<accp@...> wrote:
>
> Since he's still drinking, I think it would be hard. My dad did
the same
> things about stories. We didn't know they were stories at the
time. When
> he was hospitalized and making up these wild, wild stories, we knew
> something was wrong and that's when we looked into WKS. Before
that, the
> stories were not outrageous and we didn't think anything of them or
assumed
> he was drunk.
>
>
>
> Does he have trouble walking? Does he tremble? How bout his
eyes? Are
> they able to focus, or are they droopy? Again, a lot of those
symptoms are
> present when a person is drunk, so it's hard to tell. And I've
said it
> before, my dad's been to 5 doctors in various hospitals. 3 say he
has it; 2
> vehemently deny he has it. I would look up as much as I could, read
> everything about it, and then try to decide. But it is really hard
when
> they're still drinking.
>
>
>
> It's a long, awful road. Worse than a nightmare. I know a lot of
people
> will tell you to get him to stop drinking, but YOU can't. As long
as you
> aren't enabling him, there isn't much you can do. Until he damages
himself
> enough to have permanent care, he won't stop. Do what you can to
protect
> YOU. Put your house in your name alone, get your own bank account,
get POA
> of him, medical and shoot, I can't think of it and I work for an
attorney!!
> The one where you can sign his name to checks, deeds, etc. Get
both.
>
>
>
> We've all been through what you're going through. Sometimes even
if you
> just need to vent, we're here.
>
>
>
> Amanda
>
>
>
> _____
>
> From: wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com
> [mailto:wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of
Terri r
> Sent: Tuesday, June 03, 2008 11:20 AM
> To: wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [BULK][wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome] Re: Im not looking to
find a
> way to get him to quit drinking, Im loo
>
>
>
>
> I sympathize with all of you. I am married to a 54 year old
alcoholic who
> has alcoholic liver disease and whose mind I believe is totally not
there.
> My husband continues to drink 30 beers per day, repeats himself
over and
> over, doesn't remember five minutes later what I tell him, etc. On
April
> 17th, our GP told him that if he didn't stop drinking, he'd be dead
in 6
> mos. to a year. GP said worst case scenario is if he lives longer,
cause he
> could just "linger on" for 3 years. I know my husband will never
stop
> drinking (has been in rehab and went to AA, stops only for a week
at best).
> I'm just really wondering how to find out if he truly has
Wernecke's or any
> other alcohol related illness (such as neuropathy) without him
going to a
> dr., since he won't go to one (they always give him "bad news" as
he says).
> Last week I went to our GP alone to talk about my husband. GP said
that
> hubby could linger on, doesn't know how long, told me to say three
words to
> him "apple, penny, chair", talk to him for 5 mins. then ask him
what the
> words were. I did that, hubby couldn't remember any of them. It's
hard to
> tell whether he can't remember anything cause he's soooo drunk all
the time
> or if it's Werneckes. He is also making up stories like how he had
> breakfast w/his boss (his boss doesn't even like him), how they all
know he
> drinks at work, but it's ok, they're gonna give him extra time off
and how
> they always praise his work performance. Any suggestions from all
of you
> would help if you can help me figure out a way to tell whether it's
> drunkenness talking or Wernicke's. Thanks. And you're all in my
prayers.
>
> Terri
>