Thanks Dave and Carrie for the posts
It's just so damn frustrating that he went to a
Nursing Home and 'improved' so now lives on his own
with support and that we might have to go through it
all over again. Also doesn't help that I have a very
unrealistic social worker!
--- d_gramenz <dgramenz@...> wrote:

> Hi Kaye,
>
> I don't post here very often but I am always
> lurking. I'm sorry,
> but I don't have any advice for you either...I just
> figured I would
> pipe in that I have dealt with that frustration that
> you are feeling
> for years (actually decades in the case of my father
> - 1986.) It
> truly is a decision that they need to reach by
> themselves as they
> will not listen. I could tell my dad the sky was
> blue and he would
> argue with me until the end of time that it was
> purple (or insert any
> other color you choose.) When my mom was still alive
> and fighting
> breast cancer that had spread to her lungs, he would
> continue to
> smoke in the house, dening that the cigarette smoke
> would harm her
> already cancerous lungs. The levels of frustration
> just multiply on
> an exponential level as reason and logic is
> something that just
> escapes them!
>
> All I could do is let things go and realize it's
> the disease and
> the dementia that produces such irrational thought,
> and until he
> deteriorates enough to be permanently placed in a
> nursing home (like
> my father currently is), there isn't anything that
> can be said or
> done that will change their minds on the drink :( It
> doesn't always
> work (letting go), and there are many times still
> that I just end up
> so furious with him and his attitude that I have to
> walk away and not
> check in on him for a good month. It sucks!
>
> I probably should have added this next bit in
> another post, but in
> regards to I think it was Carrie talking about
> changes in behavior, I
> know whenever my dad gets any kind of lung infection
> his behavior can
> radically change. His words slur, he can barely
> walk, and is very
> confused. Also, if he has a seizure then it can take
> a good week or
> two for him to get back to the level that he was at
> prior to the
> seizure. I don't know if that is anything similar to
> the episode your
> dad is having, but I know I have seen similar
> behavior out of my dad.
>
> Anyways, I don't know if my ramblings have helped
> at all, but I
> figured I would just pipe in my two cents.
>
> Best regards and good luck to everyone!
>
> Dave
>
> --- In wernicke-korsakoff_syndrome@yahoogroups.com,
> Kaye Wood
> <apollo210c@...> wrote:
> >
> > Hi,
> > I took my dad for his check up with his consultant
> > last week and told him about the social workers
> plan
> > to reapply for my dads driving license. At least
> the
> > Consultant was realistic in the problems he could
> see
> > with that process! He asked me how much he was
> > drinking at the moment...it's at least 2 litres of
> > vodka and a couple of litres of cider a week which
> he
> > then estimated to be about 80 plus units of
> alcohol
> > (over three times the recommended rate). I asked
> if he
> > would deteriorate quickly if he continued to drink
> > that amount but continued to eat well (which he
> seems
> > to be doing) and take his thiamine. He said he
> would
> > deteriorate quite quickly over a period of months.
> I
> > don't know why, but that shocked me. I seem to
> have
> > lost all perspective on how much is too much (i
> guess
> > was comparing to what he used to drink) because I
> > didn't think, relatively speaking that that was a
> > lot....
> > Tried to get him to swap the vodka for cider
> > today...that didn't work. Anyone got any ideas?
> I'm
> > clutching at straws I know
> > Kaye
> >
> >
> >
>
___________________________________________________________
>
> > Rise to the challenge for Sport Relief with Yahoo!
> For Good
> >
> > http://uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/
> >
>
>
>



___________________________________________________________
Rise to the challenge for Sport Relief with Yahoo! For Good

http://uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/