Hi Chella,

 

Yes, I understand the need to hear from you consistently by your mom.  If I don't hear from either one of my daughters or a friend every day, I kind of get that way too.  So I'm sure my daughter, Beccah (who is on his list, too) probably gets frustrated that I call her if she doesn't call me first.  She seems to understand the problem better than anyone else.  I know that she has a lot going on in her own life right now, so I've been trying not to bother her as much.   

 

As far as the income/medical insurance goes, I did get approved for State Medicaid fairly quickly, about as soon as I was no longer covered at work.   I applied for Social Security Disability when it first became obvious that I could not work any longer.  I was denied the first time (which is pretty much automatic I understand) but did appeal and was given the Disability at the hearing (with a lawyer).  Then the Medicare kicked in when I'd been on Disability for 2 years.  What state do you live in?  I'm in Missouri.

 

Do they have your mom on an antidepressant?  If not I'd ask the doctor about it.  I'm on Trazodone (the generic of Desyrel) and it works for me.  I rarely cry anymore (which is both a blessing and a curse) and it helps me sleep.  Anyway that should help with the crying.

 

She'll still need your reassurance.  She has probably not much of a social life anymore, if any.  She is probably lonely, and needs to know someone (she has chosen you) cares about her.  You may just have to take that one on faith.  I know it's difficult for younger people to understand insecurity in older people, it was for me in the past.  But with the uncertainties and confusion we face with this disease, I thnk it is pretty common for those of us not extremely affected, who know that they don't know anymore.  (My father suffered from strokes and when he was still alive, in his eighties, he would cry a lot and when asked, he would say that he knows that he doesn't know anymore.  All I could do was go see him and hold him as often as I could.)

 

Hang in there with her.  Try to not let her see your frustration.  She needs you.

 

Let me know how it all goes,  Take care.

Nora