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I have been in a similar situation. My husband left me for a younger women but that was before my iliostomy! I had my op when I was 40 (9 years ago) and was in a fairly new relationship. That relationship didn't work out, more because I live in Bucks and he lived in Scotland. I now have a lovely man in my life. Have been with him for 2 years and he had and has no problem with my ilio at all.
I think it is important to remember that your ilio is a very very small part of you. You are still you and more importantly you are alive. It is a very shallow man/woman who is put off by this. A bit like having a spot on your face. You notice it much more than other people do.
You will know when you do meet someone else when the right time is to tell them that you have been modified.
Go for it, you only have one life.
Jane
From: ukostomysupport@yahoogroups.com [mailto:ukostomysupport@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Christine Hurwood
Sent: 15 February 2006 07:32
To: ukostomysupport@yahoogroups.com
Subject: Re: [UK Ostomy Support ] all alone similar circumstances
bernie609 <bernie609@...> wrote:
Hi All
Havent been in touch with this site for long time. Feel pretty lousy
this Valentine night. Just found out this week that my hubby has
another woman.......after 25 years of marrige.
Had my iliostomy five years ago. He told me then it didnt make any
difference he would love me anyway. So much for that!!!!!
Hes leaving to move in with her and i will be left alone. Who will
want me now.....bad enough being middle aged but having an iliostomy
too.
Has anyone been in the same situation as me and met someone new....god
knows im not ready for that yet but when the time comes what do i do??
At what stage do you mention that you have a stoma etc. And i have so
many scars, feel so ugly. So many younger prettier NORMAL women out
there.
If anyone has any advice please let me know
Thanks
xxxxx
kindest regards christine
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