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I received this today from a friend of mine and thought I would pass it on - Especially since a few of us are going through a few things -
What is Detachment?
Detachment is experiencing your feelings without allowing your feelings to control you. It is choosing how you will act in a situation rather than just reacting. Feelings like sadness, happiness, disappointment, joy, frustration - are natural. Everyone has them. Detachment is a way to use thinking and feeling together so that you don't let your feelings run away with you.
Detachment does not mean you pretend to feel differently than you do. Some people think detachment is being cold or pretending not to care, but when they try it, they find it is a joyful experience. Feelings are wonderful when they belong to us, when we use them to do what we really choose to do.
Detachment means to feel what you feel but not have to act on the feeling unless you want to. It's kind of like standing beside yourself and watching what you are feeling as well as feeling it.
Detachment is experiencing your feelings without allowing your feelings to control you. It is choosing how you will act in a situation rather than just reacting. Feelings like sadness, happiness, disappointment, joy, frustration - are natural. Everyone has them. Detachment is a way to use thinking and feeling together so that you don't let your feelings run away with you.
Detachment does not mean you pretend to feel differently than you do. Some people think detachment is being cold or pretending not to care, but when they try it, they find it is a joyful experience. Feelings are wonderful when they belong to us, when we use them to do what we really choose to do.
Detachment means to feel what you feel but not have to act on the feeling unless you want to. It's kind of like standing beside yourself and watching what you are feeling as well as feeling it.
Why Practice Detachment?
Detachment is very important for a spiritual being. It allows you to choose the way you are going to act no matter how you feel. It permits you to be kind to people you do not like, or do a very hard thing because it is the right thing to do.
Detachment helps you to decide what to do about strong feelings like anger. You can decide to use your voice to tell someone how mad you are and why rather than picking up the nearest object and slamming them with it!
Without detachment you never know what you're going to do - it depends on how you feel! When you practice detachment a lot it becomes easier to do, even when your emotions are very strong. Prayer and meditation can be a big help in learning detachment.
Without detachment you would stay away from all the things you don't like or which are hard to do - even if it is very important for you to do them. With detachment you can choose to do something you like in moderation rather than eating too much or playing a game too much and neglecting other things you need to do.
How Do You Practice It?
You can practice detachment whenever you have a feeling about something or someone. first you recognize the feeling - how can you be detached if you do not know what you are detached from? Stop and look at your feelings and thoughts. Ask yourself two questions:
What am I feeling about this?
What do I want to do?
Now pay attention to what you want to do. Ask yourself...
Is it good for me?
Will it help someone else?
Is it right
Is it the best I can do?
If the answer to any of these questions is no, then choose to do something else instead.
Look. Choose. Act.
Signs of Success
Congratulations! You are practicing detachment when you...
Take time out before doing something you will be sorry for.
Look at your feelings before deciding how to act.
Use thinking and feeling together.
Pray or meditate before taking action
Chose to do what is right
Keep trying! You need more practice when you...
Ignore your feelings
Do not know what you are feeling
Automatically act on your feelings without
thinking
think you are helpless when strong feelings come
Do not decide what you want to do or say
Lose your temper
Love in recovery
Becki
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