I think it's great that they come to this
club!!!! I feel this is about helping others not just
because of adoption but because of the need to help
others. I am very grateful for this site and the help I
am recieving because of being an adoptee with chonic
illness's that could eventually be life threatening. We as
human beings need to be able to help one another in all
of our times of trouble. I will be praying for you
Paula and Anthony, hang in there better days will be
ahead. Sandy

Hi all,<br><br>Eventhough this is a Triad
list,,,I have invited a friend of Barb's to join. Her name
is Paula,,and her little boy Anthony is on a
transplant list for a new heart(not kidney like I
thought)DUH. Anyhow, Anthony is almost 3,,and the poor little
one has already been thru hell. Our group is a very
close caring one,and I think everyone of us knows what
it is like to face the uncertainy,fear,helplessness,
of what tomorrow might bring. <br><br>I know that
everyone here will support Paula and Anthony and be there
for her. They need our emotional and spiritual
support. And I think we need them. I know I do. Seeing how
brave and positive Paula is,,,inspires me,,and makes me
grateful for what I have. Please welcome them, and I am
sure there will be alot of mutual growth for us
all,<br><br>thanks<br>hugs,<br>Renee

How do I invite Paula here? I have been
attempting to figure this out for as long as I've been a
member of Yahoo GeoCities. Does the club founder have to
do it or can I? Just asking. Everyone; make this a
great day!!!!!!<br><br>God
Bless<br>Barb<br>MiracleHeart97

Hello to everyone. I apologize for not being able
to be here as much as I'd like. I finally am over my
virus and upper-respiratory infection and leary of
saying that outloud!! Or in print...<br>I sincerely hope
that everyone is doing ok and Renee, again; thank you
for everything. Paula called me this morning and she
is very touched by your's and everyone's support.
So; am I.<br><br>God Bless<br>Barb<br>Miracleheart97

Hello we are trying to find siblings due to
medical we have met the birth mother and talked to the
birth father. Neither will help us out at all. My
husband is adopted and has major medical issues. Doctors
rule most idiopathic which is unknown to cause. we
found a full brother last year and three week after we
found him and met him he was dead. And he has some of
the same medical issues and was unaware that he had
them. Looking for sibling from birth mother Stella
Cueto currently Hall lives in Florida. And Benjamin
Hodgeman lives in California. Any help would be deeply
appreciated. Thanks and God Bless Email me at louie4me@...

Hi I am a bmom searching for my bson to pass on
important medical information to him. My son Michael past
away back in 82, at that time they called it "failure
to thrive." In 90, my 9 month old son was diagnosed
with PID, at that time they did not give him a lot of
hope but he is one heck of a fighter. My Bson can be a
carrier of this disease or he can get the disease
himself. the doctors informed us that it usually affects
ppl in their late teens to early 30's. I dont want my
bson to go through what I have had to go
through.<br>The info I have on my bson is that he was born
11/11/80 Nassau Hospital, Mineola, NY. He was adopted by a
Jewish Family. The adoption was finalized on
6/3/81.<br>if you can help, please contact me at
gracie-ato@...

Female adopteesearching for bmom and sibs. Need
medical info. Have kidneystones, high blood pressure,
arthritius, Chrones des. etc. Bmom 32, 4 siblings born
between 1940-50. Birth took place in Los Angeles, Ca.
6/3/52. Bmom was a widow. More info if needed.

Karry,<br>Thank you for responding and I'll be looking forward to communicating
with you when you get your computer back. I'm usually on in the
mornings.<br>Thanks again,<br>Karla

Hi Karla~<br>I am so sorry about taking so long
to respond. At first i wasnt sure if you had been
able to join Renee's group yet. Not that you have to,
lol, but it sounded like you would be happy here.<br>I
am on for a short time tonight to make quick
connections. My computer is off to the shop tonight. Im
sitting here typing with it in safe mode. Pretty bad :-(.
I will be back on by friday night and we can begin
to piece together what will be the beat way to work
on your search.<br>Take good care<br>Hugs,<br>Karry

I just want to stop in and say hi to everyone. I
know that I haven't been here that much but I'm
feeling very fatigued. Just wanted everyone to know that
you're in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully; I'll be
rid of this daycare-caused virus, in no time flat!
Love to everyone.<br><br>God
Bless<br>barb<br>miracleheart98

Karry,<br><br>I tried to send a request for help
to the searchangels@... and the email
bounced. I sent you an email personally but I'm not sure
if you received it. I really need some
help.<br><br>Thanks,<br>Karla<br>KarlajKJ@...

My Info.<br><br>Birth name : Shirley Jean
Lane<br>DOB : 4-18-51<br>Hospital : Methodist in
Indianapolis, In.<br>Time of birth : 10:30 am<br>Wt. and height
: 8lbs, 13ozs 21 inches long<br>b-parents names :
Patricia Anne (Davis) Lane and Casey Lane (Casey died in
1992)<br>Their address in 1951 : 1325 N. Illinois Indianapolis,
In.<br>There were 3 older siblings. I think there was 1
brother and 2 sisters.<br>B-mothers age at the time of my
birth : 22<br>B-father's age at the time of my birth :
30 <br>B-father occupation : Welder at Chevy
Works<br>B-mom from : Indiana<br>B-father from : Tennessee
(Hawkins County)<br><br>I have already been in contact
with all of my relatives on my dad's side and I really
need help locating my b-mom's side.<br><br>Thanks
Renee,<br>Karla<br>P.S. Let me know if I left anything out.

Renee,<br><br>I'm a new member and I want to tell
you what a teriffic idea this is! T.I.E.S. is a
wonderful group but not very helpful to those of us who are
not terminal.<br><br>It's very hard to set up
guidelines for people with chronic pain as we all know how
subjective our perceptions of pain are. This could be tricky
especially if you were to set up some kind of criteria for
the length people have been in pain. I am an R.N. and
have been around people in pain most of my life. It's
been my experience that people do not lie about their
pain. If people say they are in pain, they ARE. (Try to
get doctors to believe that!) It would also be
difficult to make criteria based on particular illnesses,
too. You could have some folks with FMS saying they
hurt more than other disease entities when in fact,
they can't really know how much the other people are
suffering. I'm sure there are many other adoptees who are
just like me....who are suffering with tremendous pain
but cannot be diagnosed. What about us?<br><br>I
would be happy to discuss this issue further with you
if you would like to eamil me personally but I
really think it would be best to let ANY adoptee, with
any kind of pain problem, into the group. We're not
making this pain up even though we may not have a
particular diagnosis.<br><br>Karla<br>KarlajKJ@...

Hi Group,<br><br>My name is Karla. I'm a female
adoptee who has been suffering with chronic pain for the
last 10 years...NON-STOP! I've spent a fortune on
medical bills and the doctors still don't have a clue
what the problem is. I have recently found my
b-father's side of my family and, unfortunately, they don't
have any medical problems that are similiar to mine.
I'm hoping to be able to find my b-mom and her side
of the family to see if they have anything remotely
similiar to my medical problems. My b-mom's name was/is
Patricia Anne (Davis) Lane and her birth date is 1928-1929
as she was 22 when I was born on 4-18-51 at
Methodist Hospital in Indianapolis, In. I know I had/have 2
older siblings. There's suppose to be 2 sisters and 1
brother but I do not know their names. My birth name was
Shirley Jean Lane and I weighed 8 lbs. 13 ozs. at the
time of my birth.<br><br>This pain is unbearable but I
manage to keep on trucking. The thought of finding
b-mom's side of the family is one of the things that keep
me going, not only to find my heritage, but to MAYBE
find a reason for all this misery.<br><br>Karla

Hi to Renee and to everyone. I am feeling so bad
that I missed that chat! I really and truly needed
that. Hopefully; everyone was able to make it though.
When is the next one?<br><br>Renee; I am going to add
your link as well, to my personal page. I just can't
figure out how to create hyperlinks, but all anyone has
to do is copy and paste it into their web browser,
where it has addresses or you can just type it
in.<br><br>I usually stop in to see how everything is going,
however; didn't feel so great, so haven't done so. Anyway;
that's a hard one to decide about what should be
considered an illness that requires help. That's really
tough for me to even figure out. I need to feel that
one out because of course, I feel everyone deserves
help and so, I will get back to you on that one,
ok?<br><br>I wanted to thank you, personally, for helping me
so much and between you and a couple of other's; I
have a renewed sense of hope about
everything.<br><br>God Bless<br>love, barb<br>Miracleheart97<br><br>I
want to share my one and only webpage that will
eventually grow, as more love and care go into it. Thanks
again...<br><a href=http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/index.html
target=new>http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/index.html</a><br>Or<br><a
href=http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/
target=new>http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/</a><br><br>Any and all
feedback is welcomed because this is the
first time that I've attempted to create something like
this on my own. I've found, though, that it has helped
me, emotionally and spiritually, so much. I know that
possibly I had left the url here before, however; it keeps
changing...And, also; a warm thank you to the Search Angels.

Hi All,<br><br>We will be having an informal chat
tonight at 9pmEST for anyone interested in getting to
know each other,throw around so ideas about searches,
I will try to get the owner of the search angels
here to answer questions,etc. Also to make some
suggestions about the club. I hope everyone can join
us<br><br>Renee

Everyone, <br><br> I would like you all to help
me set up the guidlines as to what you feel should
be considered an illness to qualify for our
searches. <br><br>Also, it has been suggested that we set
up a non pofit corp,,,. I would like some input on
that idea. When this takes off, it is going to get
expensive, and it might make sense to take care of things
like this now before we get bombarded. Mary from
T.I.E.S. is helping me to get this off the ground, and
hopefully as successful as they are. Your input would be
greatly appreciated.<br><br>Thanks,<br>Renee

Hi all,<br><br>I would like to take this chance
and welcome everyone who has joined in the past few
days. I am very excited to see that the Searchangels
have offered their much needed assistance to our
group. Please don't hesitate to ask them for help, as
they are trully awesome angels!!!<br><br>I have
received many e mails about the club, and offers for help
privately. The director of T.I.E.S. is in contact with me
and has offered their assistance in guilding us when
we need it as we are new. I am really grateful to
all our members and the great people who have offered
to put links to our group on their pages, and help
out in any way they can. Eventhough our club is still
in it's organizing stages, it looks like things will
be taking off soon.<br><br>Thanks again
all,<br>Hugs,<br>Renee

Hello all~<br>I would like to offer the services
of the Searchangels to your group. We are a closly
working group of searchers that feel your cause is
something we would like to be a part of in working torwards
your reunions. We do the searches for free.<br>our url
is<br><a href=http://www.geocities.com/desipane/index.html
target=new>http://www.geocities.com/desipane/index.html</a><br>our group email
is<br>Searchangels@...<br>You of course can reach me at my private
email which
is<br>KarrylgShow@...<br>Hugs, to all,<br>Karry/Geri

09-28/29-1956---Been looking for a long time.have medical info.to give---JERSEY
CITY,NEW JERSEY----

I just felt like checking back in. To the
founder; You have been through a lot and your story is a
little different than mine, yet; still the same..ya
know?<br><br>I will most likely email you with my info because
as I'm typing this out, there's a big red reminder
not to give out personal stuff. <br><br>If I can help
anyone, please let know cause I'm here. I also am at home
with our two yr. old son, ali(alex) and would be more
than willing to help.<br><br>God
Bless<br>Barb<br>Miracleheart97@...

I am a Diabetic , over 11 yrs. NEED medical info
ASAP--Mounting complications, & other factors. She is now
Approx; 79 Yrs old, last known to be in the Phila; area
Sept; 1941, (MAY???) be living in upstate P. A. Last
name may be other, due to marriage. Also, just want
her to know Im still out here, searching.
Respectfully willbonner3941@... .

Hi everyone! Here's my info: I have Fibromyalgia,
chronic migraines, history of depression, Thoracic Outlet
Syndrome, Endometriosis, heart palpitations,
GERD,pre-cancer of the cervix, and I was born with birth defects
of my left hand and right foot. Besides just trying
to get a medical history for myself, my husband and
I would like to have a baby, and so any medical
history I could find would be very important. As it
stands now, I will have to go through extensive
screening and testing before becoming pregnant, and even
then it will be a roll of the dice. I am disabled and
receive disability, and my husband and I had to move in
with my Aparents 4 years ago because of my health.<br>
This is what I know about my adoption: I was born
Friday,1/21/72, at 12:35pm in Cumberland, MD, with birth defects
of my left hand and right foot. I weighed 7lbs 6oz
and had brown curly hair and blue eyes. My birth name
was Crystal Logue and my code name in foster care was
Nicole Lane. I had a cast and braces on my legs as an
infant, and I was extremely fat as a baby. I was in
foster care from 1/72 until 7/21/72 when my Aparents
picked me up-- my Bmom couldn't decide what to do with
me. During this time my Bmom has said that my Bdad
had paternity testing done at a hospital, but she
claims she never received the results. My Bmom's name at
the time was Deanna Logue, and now is Deanna Brockey,
and she lives in Cresaptown, MD. She told my CI that
my Bdad is married and lives in the Cumberland area,
but refuses to give his name. He is not named on any
paper with Social Services. My Bmom and I were reunited
7/00, but have since severed contact because of the
Bdad search(she told me to never look for him or ask
about him, or never talk to her again). I need to find
him because of my health problems-- I have a CI who
would gladly contact him confidentially and have him
fill out a standard MD health questionaire(I would
never bother him or demand a meeting-- I don't want to
disrupt his life at all!). Once my CI asked my Bmom who
my Bdad was, she became irate and started telling
stories that don't fit with my Social Services file-- she
now claims that she doesn't know who my Bdad is, that
it could be several people, but that doesn't make
any sense when compared to my file. Here is what my
file says: Bdad was 23 at time of my birth(1/21/72),
140 lbs., 5'5" or 5'3", small build, fair skin, blue
eyes, sandy reddish hair, possibly Irish, enjoyed
working on cars and had graduated from high school. I do
not know where to go from here, as my Bmom won't
speak to me or gove me any info. She comes from a large
family(the youngest of 14 children, although not all are
living), and I met some of her family at the reunion, but
I don't know their names or personal info to
contact them and see if they know anything. I obviously
look more like my Bdad, since I have his coloring,
height, and since I don't look at all like my Bmom or her
family. Short of going to Cumberland's library and
looking at all of the pictures for a man of his age group
who resembles me, I don't know what to do to find
him.<br> I live in Carlisle, PA., and would be willing to
help search in this area as my health permits-- I am
near Harrisburg, PA and could search there as well. My
Aparents are from Elmira, NY, and Reading(Wyomissing), PA,
so I may be able to help in those areas also. Thank
you so much for starting this
group!!<br>Sincerely,<br>Beth DeRenzo<br>Carlisle, PA

I am an adoptee and I am searching for my birth
family,I have alot of <br>medical problems and I'm hopping
to get some medical information(if they don't want
contact).I have Lupus,FM,degenative AR,Glouma,etc.
Information <br>Birth name:Thelma Mae Dye<br>Adopted
name:Judy Carol Hutson <br>DOB: 2-18-1958 (DHS Shows
2-18).and (The court records show the same as <br>my
amended 2-19-1958).<br>Time of birth:7:24 pm<br>Weight at
birth:7lbs
13ozs<br>Height:20"<br>Doctor:G.F.Holitils<br>POB:Little
Rock<br>State:Arkansas<br>Birthmom name:Linda Mae
Dye<br>Birthgrandmother:Thelma Mae Dye <br>Adopted Parents:Rayburn and Sylivia
Hutson Birthmom information <br>Age:13
<br>Education:Eighth grade at the time of my birth. Height:5'7"
Weight:130-145 <br>Hair:Light Brown<br>Eyes:Green
<br>Sibblings:4 brothers & 1 Sister (In 1958 were 19,11,7,5,2)
<br>Birth
father:unknown<br>Age:34<br>Hair:Brown<br>Eyes:Brown<br>Height:6'1"<br>Education\
:4th grade<br>Occupation:Sawmill Worker=A0 <br>Any
information will be greatly appreicated<br>contact
JUDY586@....<br> Judy

Hi all,<br><br>Please post your search info, or e
mail it to me personally so we can start searching for
you. Include everything you have, and anything you
have been told.<br><br>Also if you can help out with
the group by doing lookups, etc please tell us where
you are located and what you are willing to
do.<br><br>Thanks all,<br>Renee

I did really good, but he decided to do an
emergency C section 4 weeks early because my blood pressure
was going high, and he wanted my son out where he
could watch him. I delivered a healthy 6lb13oz
beautiful little boy at 4:36pm on 9-11-97. His scores were
all 9's, and my husband and I each finally could
breath normal again after 9 months of terror. They never
brought the baby to me until like 5 hrs later, so I knew
something was up. They needed to stabilize him, because his
sugar was 15 when he was born. He was born on a
Thursday, and Saturday morning they decided he had to be
transferred to a neonatal unit at the Children's hospital
about 25 minutes from my in Youngstown OH. This is
where I spent most of my time growing up,so I knew he
was in good hands, but I was devestated when they
told me they needed to check him for heart problems.
All the special ultrasounds I had done showed no
heart problems.<br><br>When we got to the hospital,
they had the baby on a warming bed, in an O2 helmet,
and we weren't allowed to touch him for 24 hrs,
because he needed to stay unstimulated. I had about 8 drs
come up to me and ask for a medical history,
especially any heart problems. I will never forget the look
on their faces when I said I didn't have one, that I
was adopted. They looked at me,,then at the baby,
then they walked away shaking their heads. I have
never felt so helpless in all my life. Well the news
was good and John Robert only had 2 minor heart
problems, both that he outgrew before he was 2. <br><br>
Last yr,,when I reached the 20th yr of being diabetic,
my Dr sat me down and we had a long talk. He had
done a bunch of tests and found out what he already
suspected. Diabetes is known to age your organs, and mine
are about the age of a 45-50 yr old person. I ahve
only had minor little problems with complications, but
they can start at any given day. All I can do is keep
as healthy as I can, and my sugar in as tight as
control as possible, and pray for the best. It was really
hard for me reaching my 30th birthday and hearing info
like this, becasue now it's not just about me. I have
a 7 yr old stepson that we have full custody of do
to abuse, and the baby. So I have 2 young children
that need me to be healthy for them. And my son
deserves to have his medical info available to him. I
don't want him to ever have to look down at his little
one and have to tell the dr's he doesn't have any
info, his mom was adopted. <br><br>My biggest fear is
that there is heart disease of kidney disease in my
Bfamilies backround, and that I won't find it in time to
stop any problems with me. After I shared this story
with a few other people, I found out that there are
many triad members out there in the same boat as I am
in. T.I.E.S. is an awesome organization, but they
only have the resources to help people that are
terminal. I would like to try and establish some way to
help Triad members BEFORE it comes to where only
T.I.E.S. can help.<br><br>Well, now you see why I decided
to start this club. I hope it works out good for
everyone with a need like mine,<br>Hugs to all,<br>Renee

Hi everyone and welcome to the club. I hope
everyone is comfortable here and has a positive experience
belonging to this group.<br><br>I'll start off with a
little bit about myself and why I decided to try and do
this. My name is Renee Grande-Kloss, and I am an
adoptee. I was born 3-26-69 in Pgh PA. My Bname was
Maryanne Lynn Shearer, and my Bmom's name was Sandra or
Sondra Shearer, she was 19,single and a teller in a
bank. My Bdad was an older married man, who was a n
exec in the same bank. All I know is he was german. My
agency was Catholic Charities of Erie, and my Bmom was
probably at Roselia, and I am pretty sure my hospital was
Mercy. I was in foster care for 6 months, and then I
came home with my adopted parents here to Sharon PA
Mercer County, which is where I was finalized, in either
Sept 1969 or 70.<br><br>When I was 10, they found out
I had diabetes. When I turned 13, I started having
major porblems with my sugars. The dr found out much
later that it was due to puberty and adolesence. There
were a few times my sugar was so high I almost died,
and 1 time I had acid racing to my heart due to the
sugar and had to go on a dialysis machine for 12 hrs. I
can remember all the times my Amom had to tell the
drs that they had no medical history on me because I
was adopted, and how much my main Dr used to try and
get my mom to do whatever she had to do to find it.
<br><br> After I turned 18, my health improved, but my
attitude didn't. I left home and didn't speak to my
Aparents for almost 10 yrs. I ran all over the state,
partying and doing whatever I wanted to do. 3 days after
my 21st birthday, I got sober and have been
eversince. My life was pretty normal until January of 1997,
when I became pregnant with my son. When the OB found
out I was a diabetic, had astma,borderline high blood
pressure, and had gotten pregnant with no preconceptual
counseling, he told me every horror story he could think of
and what I might face. MY OB is a great guy, a little
irishman, and I swear he turned 8 shades of red when he
found out I was adopted and didn't have a medical
history. He decided I had to have special ultrasounds
done, go to his office every 2 weeks, then every week,
and have every test known to mankind done. <br>to be
continued,,,,,

Hi there. It's either very, very late or very,
very early (I say that alot) so I will be brief right
now. <br><br>Another online searcher who I practically
tripped over (I had been at her site many times and had
never noticed a link for adoptee's) is helping me so,
so much and gave me this link.<br><br>I am an
adoptee, named by my adopted parents, as "Barb(ara)" who
has begun many on again-off again searches for many
reasons. This time I'm sticking to it because I had found
out after being dianosed with PPCM & CHF, after
having an induced labor, that I had been walking around
with a bad heart for a very long time. Also, both of
my children, Ali (Alex) and Shanon, 2 & 18 yrs. of
age, respectively; can inherit this. My daughter is
hyperglycemic and had been diagnosed at age 8. Our son,
however, has had more illnesses in 2 short years, than
Shanon has had in 18 yrs. Shanon has her share of
problems to worry about, however; that comes from her
father's side.<br><br>I need to find out more, so much
more and it's so late but thank you for starting this.
At first, I had thought no, because there had only
been one post. I quickly changed my mind because all
it takes is one person to change
anything.<br><br>Also, the heart disease I have flucuates very, very
much throughout, sometimes; just the week. I want to
live for both of my children and have been sick now,
for almost three years. There is no cure; just meds
and in the future at an unknown time and date;
transplant. See, once you have this, they wait between six
months to a full year to see if you improve. It's
already longer, way longer than that and from what we are
told; just a matter of time. In the meantime, my 2 yr.
old, ali, does not have me even though he is with me
at home. Home health aides help take care of him 5
hrs. out of every day, until my fiance gets home.
<br><br>I had done something the other day, just to get out
of myself and that was sending 10 emails to people
concerning diabetes, how they can help themselves and others
and there are 3 simple things to do. One is taking a
five min. test. It had really hit me hard because I
could not take this test when they had asked for
history. I have none because my identity has been deleted.
I couldn't understand why I had been so upset
because it happens all of the time with doctor's and
hospitals. I figured it out though. This had been the first
time, in a very long time, that I attempted to take a
test on my own, plus the intense feelings that
accompany this search, that only other adoptee's can
understand.<br><br>Ok. I had said that I would be brief but I guess I
had to get that out.<br><br>Please, anyone and
everyone, check out the beginning of our family site and
please, take care.<br><br>This is the family tree we've
created
together!!<br><br><a
href=http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/temporarypreviewfile.html
target=new>http://www.geocities.com/miracleheart97/temporarypreviewfile.html</a>\
<br>If this link does not work, just try linking on
without temporarypreviewfile.html, ok?<br><br>I just
started working on this kind of thing and for some
reason, when it comes up, it could be any one of these.
I'll fix it though.<br><br>Thanks again...<br><br>God
Bless<br>Barb<br>Miracleheart97(named after our son, ali(alex.)

I just wanted to say thanks for syarting this
group. I have been searching for my bparents for a long
time because my son has hemophilia (severe). He had a
bleed in his brain during birth because of the
hemophilia and since we didn't know I carried this, we could
not prevent it. Also, I have abnormal cells in my
cervix and uterus and although they are benign right
now, that may not always be the case. I think this
group is a wonderful idea. I know that my family
desperately needs our medical history and I'm sure there are
so very many more people out there who do as well.
If there is anything that I can do to help with
searches, I would be more than willing to do what I can. I
have been helping with searches for a few months now
and have found 1 bmom, helped to find 2 more bmoms,
and found 1 buncle so far. Unfortunately, I haven't
found my own yet. Thanks for again for starting the
group and God bless to all! Linda Roth

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