Ah

But emotions R Us, so to speak

I am not sure about whether they "should" or "should not" "Have control over
us"

We can become ill by trying to control them, or repress them

So, where are we now?

Path of the Buddha
J

------ Original Message ------
Received: Sat, 24 May 2008 05:04:53 PM PDT
From: "curtis5432" <Curtis@...>
To: time-travelers@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [Time-Travelers] Re: Anger

You certainly have a point.
However, our emotions shouldn't have to control us. I believe this,
more than anything, separates the child from the adult, regardless of
ones chronological age.
Curtis

--- In time-travelers@yahoogroups.com, "BaBaGee" <JoanLockwood@...> wrote:
>
> I like the quote
>
> But I believe the frustration is with self and that reflected to others
> In fact it is all going on inside and generated to the outside
>
> I can remember moments of such incredible stillness and peace as a
young child
> in the garden
> something to do with the sun and the birds singing
>
> Then as I got pre teen the absolute power of the waves crashing and
the smell
> of the salt air and the energy of aliveness
>
> And these experiences always resonated
>
> On the flip side I was dyslexic and stuttered until 12 years old or
so and
> school was very undermining for me. I felt as if every undertaking was
> Herculean, and while I felt defeated, I was not frustrated...because
I felt no
> anger at the situation only concern
>
> But I "feel" this experience was the priming grounds for later
frustration
>
>
> your welcome for the post ;}
>
> ------ Original Message ------
> Received: Sat, 24 May 2008 02:01:23 AM PDT
> From: "curtis5432" <Curtis@...>
> To: time-travelers@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [Time-Travelers] Re: Anger
>
> Hi J,
>
> There is an old saying that I have heard many times;
> "Expectation is premeditated resentment." I believe that frustration
> is another form of this. Impatience with people, places and things,
> when they don't do what we want, or they don't do it fast enough, or
> as well as we would have done it. lol
>
> Thanks for your post.
> Curtis
>
>
> --- In time-travelers@yahoogroups.com, "BaBaGee" <JoanLockwood@> wrote:
> >
> > And frustration?
> >
> > Is frustration a side effect of lack of patience?
> >
> > J
> >
> > ------ Original Message ------
> > Received: Fri, 23 May 2008 08:18:43 PM PDT
> > From: "curtis5432" <Curtis@>
> > To: time-travelers@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: [Time-Travelers] Re: Anger
> >
> > Hi Landon,
> >
> > I remember when I was your age, I couldn't wait to move out and become
> > self dependent!!! I bided my time, finished High school, and finally
> > got a job that allowed me to move.
> > Meanwhile, let this living situation be a good proving ground for
> > finding your inner peace, and practicing balance. (You will need these
> > skills to succeed in the real world, and they will give you a great
> > deal of power over those who have not mastered them!)
> >
> > You will be surprised how much balanced influence you can have on your
> > family members once you remove yourself from the negative part of the
> > equation. Begin to see your environment as a reflection of you, and
> > then subtlety change it to a nicer reflection. It takes a little work
> > and a lot of patience,("The quality of being patient, as the bearing
> > of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint,
> > loss of temper, irritation, or the like.") in the beginning, and then,
> > when you begin to catch on, it becomes habit forming and even
> > exciting. I use it to modify my world all of the time, everything from
> > living in a more peaceful and abundant world, to who the next
> > President will be. (At least in my universe.) This has nothing to do
> > with being Saintly. That will only acerbate the problem. To find
> > balance, be neither for nor against. When dealing with family members,
> > find a balance point within you, and wait for your reflection,
> > (Sisters, friends, birds, etc..) to find its balance point. It is
> > helpful to remember that "this too shall pass. Time has a way of
> > moving very fast. Enjoy your youth. Someday you will be an old man,
> > wondering where all of the time has gone? lol
> >
> > I am glad you are posting, I always enjoy them. Sorry if I didn't get
> > back to you on previous recent posts, but I have been on vacation.
> >
> > Thanks,
> > Curtis
> >
> >
> > --- In time-travelers@yahoogroups.com, "Landon Forche" <lforche@>
> > wrote:
> > >
> > > Hey, Curtis im going through a rough time right now, and its got to
> > > do with my family and how i react to things. There is a lot of
> > > yelling around my house and as you know how its amplified. I get
> > > really angry sometimes and my brother just seems to want a
problem to
> > > be there all the time. Its like just by me being there bothers him
> > > and he trys to find an excuse to cause a fight. I dont know if i do
> > > that and he is reflecting it back, or what. We also have a bird that
> > > screams really loud in the morning or whenever my sister passes his
> > > cage, or when somone comes to the door, or when he hears the bus
come
> > > or leave from our house and he keeps it up for about 5 minutes at a
> > > time. These things really make me angry but i dont know what
they are
> > > from and how to react to them. Did i create it this way because i
> > > needed to experience it ? Am i doing something like this to someone
> > > else and its comming back to me like karma or something? By the way
> > > what is karma exactly? Well my family is always yelling at eachother
> > > and its hard to keep out of it. Some of them think im weird and just
> > > today my other sister, because i didnt let her do something told me
> > > she hated me and that everyone at school thinks im weird. I dont
mind
> > > that and i know thats not true but i dont know weather to give
people
> > > there addictions(such as staying on the computer for 3 hours.) or
> > > keep them away when i want to use it for a little wile.
> > > Sorry for the long email but i havnt posted in a wile.
> > > thanks
> > > -lf
> > >
> >
>