Hi Kathy,
well, first at all I would like to welcome you to this group.
Second at all, I think you are already doing the most important thing
right,and that is that you love your child unconditionally, and I'm
sure she will especially when she grows up learn to apprecialte this.
I mean, you gave her the biggest sign of how irrelevant the cleft is
to you, by adopting her even though she has a cleft. Hope that made
sence.
Anyway, the best thing what you can do is to always be open with her
and to always listen to her when she had been bullyied.
Confidence is something that doesn't come easy in cleft affected
people, even if they grow up in a loving home. Just reassure her,
tell her brilliant she is, as often as you can.
If she does get bullied make her understand that it is important that
she does tell a grown up about it, and that she sees action being
taken.Also, try to make her understand, that it isn't her that has
the problem, but the Bully. If she does get more confident she might
finds it in herself to stand up for herself, but I hope that she will
always be clever enough, to not stoop down to her Bullies level!

Maybe iit wopuld help her if she would be enrolled in a gymgroup or
dance group or whatever else she might has a talent for. I remember
that, after I enrolled into gymnastics I really started being more
confident. It was something I was good it, and people looked up to
me, well at least in that way!
Anyways, I'll be off for now,
Bye and take care,
Kerstin (nearly32, bclp)