--- In teen-support-group@yahoogroups.com, "Therese <hazel203@e...>"
<hazel203@e...> wrote:
> Hi my name is therese, okay where do I start, my parents got
> divorced when I was 2, I am 22 now. The reason of divorce is
> because my father is an alcoholic. I have always had contact
> with him, lived with my mom for 20 years, she is great, and I don't
> know where I would be if it wasn't for her. Okay so my dad is a
> disable -vet, his back was crushed by a crane, in the 70's
> sometime, he got honorable discharge before Vietnam, he has
> had 4 back surgeries, he used to walk with a cane. Well here is
> why I joined this group, my dad for like the past 5-6 years has
> been using heroin, he does not take care of himself, every other
> month he is in the hospital withdrawing, but everytime he needs
> money, cigaretts, anything he calls me, I am going to a
> psychiatrist to try to deal with all this, but it is so hard, he
has had
> such a history of drug abuse I really don't think it he could ever
> straighten up. I just really need some support, someone else
> like me, I am 22 I have a job, I went to school, but I am finding I
> cannot deal with my own life because I am always worring about
> his, I mean he has a great heart just a bad disease. I suffer
> from depression, so needless to say I am an emotional basket
> case almost everyday, I mean everytime my phone rings, I dread
> it to be him because I just can't handle it anymore, I now refuse
> to give him money and stuff, but when it is your father you get
this
> disgusting guilty feeling like I can fix it and everything which I
> know I can't.
> If anyone else is going through this please respond, I need to
> know there are other kids like me.
> Thanks for everyone's time.

hi my name is kayla and im only 14. but my parents arent together
anymore and they slpit up when i was really young as well. i live
with my mom and my step dad and my little half sister. its really
hard you know not to have someone there that you can look up to..
well atleast a male figure. and i dont know how to deal with it. i
hate my real dad for all hes done to me. and i hate my step dad
because he doesn't love my mom. like he almost made her go insane.
but if u you could give me some advice on how you coped with it that
would be great. because i couldreally use some advice... my dad is
also a heroin adict. except i dont talk to him. but i mean with this
whole thing with your dad i mean its not your addiction so dont feel
guilty because you dont want to support it. but i think that you
should try to encourage him to stop. but thats good that u dont give
him money anymore. you should try to get him to talk about it because
its pretty obvious that he has some other problems that have toi deal
with the way hes feeling. so you shouldtry getting him to talk about
it with you on a regular bases so that maybe he wont resort to drugs.