Hi Folks,
If you have problems with other people driving you nuts and making
you doubt yourself than this is interesting (sorry it's so long).

From www.fhu.com :


Cruel people get their power from the way you respond to their
pressure.

Your life is in danger from people, especially members of your own
family, who chip away, harp, nag and aggravate the life out of you,
until you feel like killing them or yourself.

YOU CANNOT FIGHT THEM WITH RESENTMENT, because they use your
resentment to drive you up the wall with fear and guilt, and terrify
you into submission.

Take heart. There is not a single problem that you cannot solve if
you will learn to be patient.

You are the sum total of your experiences. Another way of saying this
is that you are burdened by your past. Unless you learn to respond
properly in the present, you build upon that past. And without self-
control, that is the only future you have to look forward to.

Respond wrongly to pressure just one time—and what upsets you, gets
to you. And you will go on responding slavishly until you find the
truth that makes you free.

You are not alone in your dilemma. The wrong emotional reaction to
various pressures is making everyone sick and depressed, and driving
people into conflict with themselves. Trying to solve the pressure-
caused conflicts, many turn to consciousness-reducing drink, tobacco
and drugs, legal and illegal.

Your reactions, becoming compulsive, are a subtle form of obedience.
But emotional obedience is a form of slavery. Behind the relentless
pressures that people apply (sometimes in the name of God and good),
is a selfish motive that compels you to fail. Because of your
reactions, you are thrown out of control and so you can't live your
own life. That is the reason why you feel sick and depressed.

Most of your sexual, family and business problems arise directly from
your failing to respond in a right way to what is wrong, and I might
add, taking it out on your loved ones. Conflict with yourself now
becomes conflict with others.

Most of the things that are wrong with your life, your marriage, your
health, your children, can be resolved by discovering how to control
your emotions.

Your emotional upsets have literally turned you upside-down. Even
though you were technically correct in what you said or did, if you
did it resentfully, your emotions backfired and confused you and as
you began to doubt yourself, conflict, depression and fear grew.

Does anything in this Article apply to you

You may want to read further, but if you have read enough, you may
want to stop here for a moment and try this simple technique of being
still and overcoming your reactions to stress. Life will never be the
same. Everything will get better.

Visit www.fhu.com for free access to the observation concentration
exercise. No personal info will be asked for.




Emotion has destroyed your objectivity, and, failing to see clearly,
you have made terrible errors of judgment. This, in turn, led to a
fear of making decisions, so that perhaps you began to look too much
to others for guidance, and you know how upsetting it can be if they
happen to be wrong or take advantage of you.

You must learn how to be patient with selfish and thoughtless people.
You must learn to be poised and calm; otherwise, what is wrong in
them shows up in you and makes you look like the bad guy. Everyone is
so fascinated with what went wrong with you that they fail to see
what they did wrong to you, and that becomes another upsetting,
frustrating and scary experience.

Cruel, unthinking people feed off the way you respond to their
needling; they walk away self-righteous and satisfied, leaving you
frustrated, confused, revengeful and depressed. They get their power
from your reaction, while your resentment often makes you feel like
the guilty one.

"Successful" domineering, (unprincipled) people drain you and make
your life wretched; they can always be sure of getting through to
your subconscious mind through your reaction to their pressure.

Dehumanizing pressure to achieve and to study is changing people into
animals—animals out of control, in mortal conflict with others.

OF COURSE WE ALL RESPOND TO PRESSURE—BUT THAT RESPONSE IS WHAT IS
WRONG WITH US.

Home and school pressures are alienating young people, creating
monster rebel animals and delinquents, driving them to drugs, murder
and suicide.

Your emotions compel you to respond more and mores as an animal, less
as a real person, and everything you think, feel, do or say will only
bring on more trouble, conflict, fear and despair.

You must learn to cope with pressures. If you can do that, if you can
put the emphasis where it belongs—on standing for principles, finding
patience and self-control—you can stave off disaster.

The way we pressure and react to pressure is the cause of all
suffering. Learn to be patient before it is too late.

Upsetting you is the key to motivating you. Your emotional upset is
the hidden reason behind all your conflict and suffering.

Winning through intimidation is a common practice among spoiled and
unscrupulous motivators. No doubt you have your own private dictator
currently aggravating the life out of you.

Through the shock of emotional upset, a compelling or morbid
suggestion can be planted in your subconscious mind, and this is
especially true with the emotion of resentment. If it doesn't cause
wild and senseless rebellion, you find yourself obliged to give in to
ease the pain that the pressure of wrong resistance causes. Your life
becomes a weary struggle against subliminal suggestions.

Giving in to please tyrants who reward weakness is a common but
unhealthy form of love, loyalty, and closeness between husband and
wife, mother and child, and between churches and their believers. (It
also happens to be the way to lose your identity.)

It is hard to say "no" to pushy, irritating people. You tend to favor
people who apply pressure—your boss, or your wife—and you spoil your
kids. When the breaking point is reached, there comes a rebellion
against work and study; debilitating disease and nervous breakdown
take their deadly toll.

Reaction to stress is your weakness—your Achilles' heel. All
heartless, cruel, power-hungry, unprincipled people inherit the know-
how to make your emotions work for them, and they have no qualms
about casting you aside after you are used and broken.

The world is dominated by tyrants, teasers, and psychopaths. Some of
them get you through cruelty, while other types manipulate you with a
holier-than-thou, irritating "kindness." They might use both methods
to confuse you, being mean to you one moment and being "kind" the
next. Their bold, unprincipled manner upsets you, and because your
resentment is the wrong way for a human being to deal with others,
you feel guilty. Suddenly changing roles and becoming "nice," they
can intensify your guilt feelings and make you doubt yourself. In
that manner you are made to believe that they were right all along,
and that you were wrong. And so you learn to go along with their
wishes; you find yourself doing things you would never have done in
your right mind, and that upsets you all over again. This vicious
cycle, with a built-in upset factor, repeats itself endlessly, until
you feel like killing them or yourself.

Human beings were never designed to be externally motivated as
animals, but because of a little understood ego-weakness, we are.
That is the main reason why we all have paralyzing conflicts,
anxieties and fears; that is the basis of all our problems, right
there. Until you discover the secret of turning yourself on from what
you realize is right deep down in your heart, you will always be an
externalized zombie, compelled to act against your own better
judgment, hurting people you love and doing things for which you are
sorry later.

Being upset is a conditioned reflex; it is an inferior way of
reacting to pressure. It is why you feel so inferior, helpless and
angry.

What if you could learn to look injustice straight in the eye without
flinching, patiently, calmly and with endless endurance? Surely you
would not have the problems of repressing or expressing resentment.
This, then, is the aim of the Foundation of Human Understanding—to
show you the secret principle of control through patience.

I know what you want. You want relief from your nervous tension and
guilt feelings. You want solutions to your sex problems and family
problems. You want to stop smoking, drinking and overeating; you want
happiness. But you will never find what you are seeking until you
discover the hidden cause of your trouble, and that cause is allowing
people to upset you too easily.

Surely emotional self-control is the key you are seeking. Your very
life depends upon responding in a right way to what is wrong with
people.

Your main line of defense (and attack) is to stay calm and patient.
Seeing you unmoved, the motivator's tactics backfire on him; he
becomes upset, loses his power and panics. Put up an impenetrable,
invisible force shield of patience that lets the good come through
and stops the ugly world from getting in and growing up inside to
control your destiny.

By practicing the self-control techniques contained within the
Introductory Package available from the Foundation of Human
Understanding, Roy Masters reveals one simple principle that will
keep you safe under all conditions of stress and persecution. It's
simple. Anyone who is sincere can learn to do it in minutes. The
secret lies in being consistent and adhering to the discipline of the
mind as does an athlete to his goal.

Please visit www.fhu.com for free access to the
observation/concentration exercise. No e-mail address or any other
personal info will be asked for. Click on the link for the
concentration/observation exercise and a recording can be listened to
with Real Player (downloadable on-site).


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