I am the one who posted the message about finding a good therapist. I was
sitting here reading responses and it dawned on me that when someone decides to
see a therapist they actually are telling themselves that it is OK to allow
other people to decide for them what to think and feel. I grew up in an
abusive, dysfunctional home and have carried alot of what I learned which is
totally wrong with me all these years. I actually believed that my family was
the only ones not normal and everyone else was perfect. Reality is we all are
screwed up in some way so really what is normal them? We are assuming that
because someone has a degree and calls themselves a psychiatrist or whatever
that somehow they have all the answers and are not screwed up either. You
probably are already aware but mental health workers and specifically
psychiatrists have a high rate of suicide and a high rate of sexual crimes. Gee
we are allowing them to label us with all kinds of bogus "mental illnesses",
abuse us in every possible way, take our money and treat us the way they do if
we try and commit suicide. And then they who are claiming to be so perfect turn
around and do the same things they abuse us over and have accused us of.

I have been struggling to find a good therapist for well over a year and I know
that these people are more screwed up than me. The things I have been told are
sometimes pretty crazy. I was told by the psychotherapist I was seeing for 6
months last year that I needed to just forget my past and move on. Hello the
only healthy way to move on is to deal with your past! What good is a therapist
when they do not want to help you deal with your past. Personally I do not even
have the energy much less the money needed to extensively research and interview
all these professionals to find a good one and frankly I do not think there are
many out there anyway. I have gotten more help and support from these online
support groups and others who really have suffered than any of those
professionals.