We watched as my SIL passed away from tongue cancer. We just kept saying that
her dad was waiting for her (he passed away two years before) and that seemed to
calm her.
This is a hard time for everyone - my heart goes out to you.

Shauna and Brady Wobeser <swbw2000@...> wrote:
Well my heart goes out to all of you. We are in the next stage as well. We
have moved dad to the hospital as he has become too much for mom and us to
handle at home. My sisters have been a great help to mom with staying with her
and such. I have a 1 & 3 year old so I feel bad that I'm not able to help much,
but I hope they understand. Dad had a really bad day today, wanting lots of
morphine and very emotional. He is not ready to die and does not want to leave
this world. There was so much he wanted to do and he feels robbed of his life. I
sit here and can't believe my dad is dying. What will we do without him? It's so
hard to accept and believe. He still is good by late afternoon, the mornings he
is very sleepy and moans and talks in his sleep. His feet have gotten very
swollen in the last couple of days. That's hard for dad to see as he is scared
that he will die any day now because of that. He is mostly skin and bones with a
huge stomach. Fluid build up and
tumor growth have accounted for that. How do you tell someone who is dying that
it will be alright when 1. you don't know this is true
2. you don't know what you'll do without them
I think lots of times I just can't accept it. But I know I have to.
This diseease is nasty and hard to understand. It is cruel to watch and I hope
they can someday find a cure or a better early detection program. Dad has asked
that when he goes into the coma stage that we not talk about him like he's dead
and that we still talk to him. this is hard to swallow. I thank you for letting
me ramble as this is a good way to express one's feelings, knowing that they are
heard, and not knowing by who but kbowing they also share my pain, grief and
understanding of this disease. shauna



----- Original Message ----
From: lcool1020@...
To: stomachcancer@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, July 5, 2006 4:31:44 PM
Subject: Re: [Stomach Cancer] Moving Dad


Heather, I wish I could offer some words of comfort for you... But, this is not
easy. It is difficult. It's one day at a time, one foot in front of the other. I
hope the ex-BIL doesn't have to be in the picture anymore...

My husband would get confused, too, if he got too tired. I knew at night he was
tired when he handed me the remote. If it was close to ten o'clock, I usually
said it was time for bed...

Losing my husband to this nasty cancer is the hardest thing I will ever do in my
life. I had no idea how much it was going to hurt... It will be two weeks
tomorrow.

Lisa.
------------ -- Original message ------------ --------- -
From: "pumpkin422001"

> Well we are in the process of moving Dad to our home. It is not
> easy for any of us seeing all Dad's treasures being given away to
> charity and taking only his personal items. It doesn't help either
> that he feels like crap and gets tired easily. He still insists on
> going through everything though. Last night after 2 hrs Dad got
> incredibly tired and very mixed up in his head - he asked me four
> times if I wanted the same box. It was junk and headed for the
> garbage. I'll be so glad when it's all done and we don't need to go
> there anymore. My ex BIL was there and between him shouting orders
> at us and throwing fits over certain items it was not a fun time. I
> think Dad needs today to recuperate and rest. Actually if he just
> goes through his important stuff then I can do the rest if he'll let
> me. His grandson is moving out on his own so Dad is setting him up
> with a lot of furniture and things.
> Anyway I just wanted to let you know what we're dealing with here -
> I have no siblings to rely on for help and my back has decided to
> flare up this week - hubby is no help at all. I'll quit griping now
> and go do something around here - the laundry pile is getting higher
> and higher.
>
> - Heather K
> dealing with Dad's cancer who is 79. He is terminal and only has
> months or weeks left - so sad.
>
>
>
>

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