Hello Ed and Members,
I too had to put my husband in a Long Term Care Facility, and I did have to
wait for the call that there was a bed available.
Well you are never ready for that call, and last April 16th I got the call
to place my husband.
We got married in 1997 and in 1999 he was diagnosed with Alzheimers.
I then had him picked up each day to go to a day centre ,which was in the
same building that we had moved into, for his sake .
Yes it is very hard to have to make that move for their safety and when I
felt I could no longer look after him, I felt so guilty at first.
I too have to drive 35 min. to visit, but I am in the plans to move to be
closer to him.
I go to two support groups each month and find that the friends that you
make is so rewarding and comforting .
So as we walk the walk, knowing that our loved one is safe and warm, and
cared for, I can rest and keep up my strength for his loving smile each time
I walk in to his room.
Love to you all.
Anne McDermott

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From: spouseswithalzheimers@yahoogroups.com
Date: 02/17/05 22:29:16
To: spouseswithalzheimers@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [Spouses with Alzheimers] Placement in Long Term Care Facility


Hello Members
Four years ago I was forced to place my lovely wife in a retirement
home that had a floor for people with alzheimers and that seemed at
the the time the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. My
health made it too difficult to look after her and advice of my
Doctor I found her a place. As time has gone on she has worsened and
the care they could provide was not sufficient to meet her needs so
again I had a decision to make to place her on the list for long term
care. The wait was going to be almost two years and now a year later
I had to broaden the locations for her as the time frame had not
changed, still two years. Two weeks ago I got the phone call they
had a room for her in a little town about 37 min from here, although
it doesn't seem like much, each time I leave her from a visit it is
harder to do as I know she is not in the same city. Again the
decision to move her was hard. On the bright side the home is new
and closer to my daughters so they are visiting more and that is a
plus.
Just wanted to share that with you and if anyone else would like to
share what has gone on with them please let us hear about it.
The Founder of Club Ed






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