I'm like everyone else in recovery, my process and path is unique.
Whatever makes sense to me might not make sense to someone else. My
main objective is to strive to remove hindrances to having a full and
satisfying life. Obstacles are my using; drinking, compulsive
gambling and opportunistic drug taking. I am putting up boundaries
against these destructive habits. These habits were my lifestyle
that impinged on my self esteem. Self esteem is the benchmark upon
which I decide whether something that I do, say, thank and feel is
furthering my goal of living a positive life. Happiness is my key to
keeping me on my journey. Laughing, caring, loving and faith are the
bricks of my path.
Along the way, I can learn from other's recovery process. I notice
that if I am judgmental about how someone is behaving, it's an
opportunity to uncover that behavior in myself. I am especially
alert when I feel irritated by someone's actions. When a person
makes sweeping generalizations by using "we" a lot, I feel
diminished. So I reframe my irritation by being more careful how I
discuss my feelings and observations. It's a bad, ego gratifying
consensus building habit using "we" all the time. I want my behavior
to reflect my belief that I celebrate my individuality.