Can't give answers but can tell you that I have exact same problem. I
know it sounds lame but try searching the net.
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<no_reply@y...> wrote:
>
> Ok, I am very despretly single and very social phobic, so pardon
the
> lame question ...
> But I often would like to go out to a bar, just to be around people
> and maby meet someone. I literaly have no one at all to go with, so
> its alone or nothing. And just being in public alone is hard enough
> for me. If I am alone, and don't find a place to sit right away if
> the bar is full, what is the 'normal' thing to do, without looking
> lame? I already feel a little unfamiliar and awkward being a single
> girl going to a bar alone ... but when I walk into a bar that is
> already full of people, I feel unsure what to do with myself! Do I
> just order my drink and kind of stand off to the side? I feel
really
> lame not knowing what people normally do in this situation! It
seems
> like the only times I have seen this situation occur when the bar
is
> full, people are usually with friends, so they can naturally stand
> and talk to each other. But what do you do while you're waiting for
> room to sit, when you don't know anyone at the bar, and aren't in a
> position to easily fall into a conversation with someone?