Can anyone share some ideas for honoring/celebrating your babies birth/loss day? Thursday is one year from when we lost my girls Emma, Kelsey and Lauren and I can't think of the best/right way to honor them.

 

Any thoughts or advice would be so appreciated...while I know there isn't a right or wrong way I was just wondering about some ideas.

 

Katie Gordon

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Hi,

I do understand, and your precious children's names will be included in the
written litany.

Hope to see you tomorrow.

Take care,
Marcia

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>From: Shellon Clarke <sbclarke71@...>
>Sent: Oct 25, 2008 10:24 AM
>To: shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com
>Subject: Re: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] SA memorial
service question
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>I have the same question. I've been real out of it being sick with cold after
cold and I'd like to include my little Aliyah Grace...
>
>Shellon
>Mom to survivor twin Zuri Alexis and angel baby Aliyah Grace
>Shellon Blanchard-Clarke
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>From: "Deanna" <todeannalynn@...>
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>Date: Sat, 25 Oct 2008 14:18:49
>To: <shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com>
>Subject: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] SA memorial service
question
>
>
>I can't believe I forgot to send in my son's name for the service
>tomorrow!  Is there a spoken litany? Can his name still be included in
>that?
>
>DeAnna - space cadet mother of angel Toren Murray
>
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I have the same question. I've been real out of it being sick with cold after
cold and I'd like to include my little Aliyah Grace...

Shellon
Mom to survivor twin Zuri Alexis and angel baby Aliyah Grace
Shellon Blanchard-Clarke


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From: "Deanna" <todeannalynn@...>

Date: Sat, 25 Oct 2008 14:18:49
To: <shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com>
Subject: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] SA memorial service
question


I can't believe I forgot to send in my son's name for the service
tomorrow!  Is there a spoken litany? Can his name still be included in
that?

DeAnna - space cadet mother of angel Toren Murray


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I can't believe I forgot to send in my son's name for the service
tomorrow!  Is there a spoken litany? Can his name still be included in
that?

DeAnna - space cadet mother of angel Toren Murray

-----Original Message-----
From: bettyboop8694
Sent: Oct 20, 2008 8:11 PM
To: shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] Re: SA Family to be on TV this Sunday

Dear SA Friends--Here's our TV interview in case you missed it. I do
warn you it warrants a "mascara alert" We were interviewed by
Channel 2 to talk about October being Pregnancy & Infant Loss
Awareness Month and how bereaved families can remember their baby(ies)

Click here for the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yAodw4iJ9Q
Northside Hospital Perinatal Loss www.atlantapnl.com
Storybooks for Healing www.mystorybooklady.com

Thanks for watching,
Betty, Brian & Joey

>

Dear SA Friends--Here's our TV interview in case you missed it.  I do
warn you it warrants a "mascara alert"  We were interviewed by
Channel 2 to talk about October being Pregnancy & Infant Loss
Awareness Month and how bereaved families can remember their baby(ies)

Click here for the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yAodw4iJ9Q
Northside Hospital Perinatal Loss www.atlantapnl.com
Storybooks for Healing www.mystorybooklady.com

Thanks for watching,
Betty, Brian & Joey


--- In shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com, "bettyboop8694"
<bnbm@...> wrote:
>
> Set your DVRs...Betty, Brian & Joey were the SA/Northside Hospital
> family interviewed for this show :o)
> Please pass this on to anyone who may be interested!
>
> October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month!
>
> Watch WSB-TV's People 2 People on Sunday, Oct. 19, 6:30 a.m., for a
> story about perinatal loss and promoting Northside's Atlanta Walk
to
> Remember on Sunday.  Dr. Eliza Bruscato and a Northside family are
> interviewed.
>
> For more information or to register for the Walk to Remember, go to
> www.atlantapnl.com or call (770) 442-8995.
>

Vanessa

I am so sorry you are going through all of this at once.  Unfortunatley
you can't control the actions of others or fix stupid (the babymama).
Personally if I were her I wouldn't want my child to live in the shadow
of someone elses.  To each is own but I think everyone deserves their
own name. Its like George Foreman naming all his sons George, its just
strange!

Just know that your angel belongs to you and nothing anyone says or
does will ever take that away.  Once I learned to own my greif as mine
I was able to control it instead of the other way around.  I let my
anger and frustrations fuel my passion to help others in similar
situations or through the March of Dimes work...avoid tragedy all
together.  I don't know why our babies died, we may never know.  I do
feel that because we are able to survive it, we have a higher purpose
to help others.

I really think that young Angels do age. I have seen many shows where
mediums talk to parents who lost children and they seem to have aged.
  When I dream of my Angel son ... I notice how big he is getting.  In
my dreams I get to take care of him just like I would had he still
been with me on this earth.

Vanessa



--- In shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com, "allysa_luttrell"
<lunastar@...> wrote:
>
> I think it is about personal opinion. I think that whatever you
> imagine is what is best for you.
>
> For some reason I always imagine Ethan as like a 6 year old- but my
> loss was only 1.5 years ago. But that is just how I imagine him.
>
> For Christmas last year I donated age appropriate toys in memory of
> him and so I imagine this year I will donate something for a 1 and
> half year old and so forth but I think it is personal and up to you. I
> mean my husbands dad still likes Hot Wheels so if that is your
> preferred gift than I think it could be for any age for sure. To me it
> is just what you imagine or what makes you feel best.
>
> -Allysa
>
> --- In shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com, "Mindy" <msimmons1023@>
> wrote:
> >
> > I guess my question maybe more for those whose loss has been years
> > ago.  Do you think angels age?  My son's angelversary is coming up
> > 10/23 it will be 12 years.  My pseudo-sister asked me if when I leave
> > presents for Athen if I get him baby stuff or things appropriate
to the
> > age he would be?  I really didn't have an answer as my toy of choice
> > are hotwheels...the 37 yr old "boy" @ my house still enjoys those!  I
> > guess sometimes I still invision him in a permenant baby state,
mostly
> > I see him as growing up.  I had a psyhic reading about 2 yrs ago and
> > she told me he has taken on an older spirit of about 10 or 11 (the
age
> > he would have been at the time).  Anyhow, I was just curious what
your
> > opinon is????
> >
>

As most of you know I have my son's anniversary coming up.  Well, I
just found out today that the father has another child due to be born
around that same time.  To make matters worse it is a boy and they are
taking the first name of our child, which was the fathers first name
since my son was a Jr., and making it their son's middle name!

I have also been made aware that the child may be born with fluid on
his brain and may have either life long complications or might not
make it.  I wish no harm on the child at all and I do not wish for
anyone to go through what we had to with losing a child.

I am so torn ... so hurt ... so confused.  And I am asking God why
over and over again.  From what I can gather he does not want anything
to do with the mother and she is the kind of mother that every other
week gets threatened from DFACS to have her children taken away from
her.  He will be there for the child I know because he is a great
father and his children are his world but he wishes that she was not
the mother.  So why would God take away our child, the one he wanted,
to have a child with THAT!  It makes no sense!

I am just so torn, saddened, hurt, confused, angry ... words cannot
describe it all! And to make matters worse the anniversary approaching
  with the father and I not speaking.  I really cannot speak to him now!

Torn,
V

Set your DVRs...Betty, Brian & Joey were the SA/Northside Hospital
family interviewed for this show :o)
Please pass this on to anyone who may be interested!

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month!

Watch WSB-TV's People 2 People on Sunday, Oct. 19, 6:30 a.m., for a
story about perinatal loss and promoting Northside's Atlanta Walk to
Remember on Sunday.  Dr. Eliza Bruscato and a Northside family are
interviewed.

For more information or to register for the Walk to Remember, go to
www.atlantapnl.com or call (770) 442-8995.

I think it is about personal opinion. I think that whatever you
imagine is what is best for you.

For some reason I always imagine Ethan as like a 6 year old- but my
loss was only 1.5 years ago. But that is just how I imagine him.

For Christmas last year I donated age appropriate toys in memory of
him and so I imagine this year I will donate something for a 1 and
half year old and so forth but I think it is personal and up to you. I
mean my husbands dad still likes Hot Wheels so if that is your
preferred gift than I think it could be for any age for sure. To me it
is just what you imagine or what makes you feel best.

-Allysa

--- In shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com, "Mindy" <msimmons1023@...>
wrote:
>
> I guess my question maybe more for those whose loss has been years
> ago.  Do you think angels age?  My son's angelversary is coming up
> 10/23 it will be 12 years.  My pseudo-sister asked me if when I leave
> presents for Athen if I get him baby stuff or things appropriate to the
> age he would be?  I really didn't have an answer as my toy of choice
> are hotwheels...the 37 yr old "boy" @ my house still enjoys those!  I
> guess sometimes I still invision him in a permenant baby state, mostly
> I see him as growing up.  I had a psyhic reading about 2 yrs ago and
> she told me he has taken on an older spirit of about 10 or 11 (the age
> he would have been at the time).  Anyhow, I was just curious what your
> opinon is????
>

I guess my question maybe more for those whose loss has been years
ago.  Do you think angels age?  My son's angelversary is coming up
10/23 it will be 12 years.  My pseudo-sister asked me if when I leave
presents for Athen if I get him baby stuff or things appropriate to the
age he would be?  I really didn't have an answer as my toy of choice
are hotwheels...the 37 yr old "boy" @ my house still enjoys those!  I
guess sometimes I still invision him in a permenant baby state, mostly
I see him as growing up.  I had a psyhic reading about 2 yrs ago and
she told me he has taken on an older spirit of about 10 or 11 (the age
he would have been at the time).  Anyhow, I was just curious what your
opinon is????