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Re: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] Baby Shower Invitiation & My Due Date

Hi Maya,
 
I haven't had to deal with any baby shower invitations since the loss of my little Antoine however I have received photo upon photo upon photo through email of my friends little boy who was born only a few months before my baby boy was due.  I love my friend dearly and I know that she's proud of her children however it's just difficult.  You don't know what to say or how to respond or what to do to get people to understand and I guess it comes across as being ugly or selfish or whatever if we don't respond in any type of way that is not considered overly joyous and happy.
 
It hurts and I feel my heart break every time I see a new photo of her little boy because it's a constant reminder of where my Antoine would be at this stage in his life and what he would have looked like.  He would have been 4 months old now.  But I don't have the heart to tell her that it's difficult for me to see her baby's pictures so I normally just read the email and not open the photos or I skim them quickly and send a reply telling her how big he's getting.  I just don't have the courage to tell her.  I wish that I could care as much about myself and my feelings as I do hers... 
 
I don't know... I will read the replies to your post to see if I can pick up on some pointers as well on how to cope!
 
Karmen
--- On Fri, 10/3/08, ayambri@... <ayambri@...> wrote:
From: ayambri@... <ayambri@...>
Subject: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] Baby Shower Invitiation & My Due Date
To: shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com
Date: Friday, October 3, 2008, 11:25 AM

Hello Everyone,

I hope that this email finds you all in good health and spirits.

September 30, 2007 was my due date for my baby, I lost him in April of 2007 though.

I was doing pretty good this week, I got a little upset actually the day after the 30th, but all in all ok. However, yesterday I received a baby shower invite from someone who is not necessarily a friend but like a friend through the family. Her mothers knew of my loss though, and she knows of my new baby shower policy. Needless to say, I get home yesterday, check my mail and see a card. I thought is someone sending me a birthday card this early? I turn it over to see who it is from, I don't recognize the address but see a sticker that says baby shower. I almost broke down right there at the mailbox. I should have thrown it away right then...I don't know why I didn't. But, I carried it into my house and opened it....to add insult to injury, it was the SAME invitation/theme that my friends were going to use for my own babyshower.

Has anyone had anything like this happen to them? If so, what did you do to cope?

I know that throughout this journey of life, there are always going to be reminders of my little boy, and what could have been...but how did you all deal with it?

Thanks and I hope everyone has a great weekend.

Maya
"Gabrielle's Mommy"



Fri Oct 3, 2008 3:46 pm

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Hello Everyone, I hope that this email finds you all in good health and spirits. September 30, 2007?was my due date for my baby, I lost him in April of 2007...
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Hi Maya,   I haven't had to deal with any baby shower invitations since the loss of my little Antoine however I have received photo upon photo upon photo...
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Oct 3, 2008
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Dear Maya and Karmin,   I have been fortunate that my family and friends were respectful of my loss and baby showers/ birthdays. My sister lives out of the...
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Oct 3, 2008
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One of my closest friend's baby shower was the weekend of my due date for Bakari. Luckily, it was in NJ. She really wanted me to come. I'd never been so happy...
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