I am sorry for ur loss as well. But u probably done ur babies funeral. I don't
know what made them think that they had the right to do and they also tried to
get me to sue my doctor now that was funny to me i loved my doctor and i would
have been on his side not theirs. I read somewhere in a book that a baby knows
when it's not wanted and sometimes i think that's why she is gone but maybe i am
wrong. I did say i wasn't ready for another baby but as she grew i wanted her
more and more. I had a premature baby girl 2 yrs later and they wanted me to
abort her b/c of a possible birth deffect but u know i didn't listen to any of
them i went crying to my daddy and he said do what ur heart tells u too and that
is what i done.

--- In shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com, Adrianne Alyce <annealyce@...>
wrote:
>
> Hello Tammy,
>
> My condolences. I know that it is hard to not have that closure. To feel as
though people made choices for you well meaning or not. You are right you should
have had the choice to be involved or not with your daughters burial. I can only
imagine that you family meant well at the time. Though it is not any consolation
to you right now as you hurt and long for your baby girl.
>
> I know time has passed, however you should do something for your daughter now.
Have a memorial service for her, visit her grave, donate in her memory something
that will allow you to grieve for her and allow you to grieve for her and honor
her life no matter what that means. Also allow yourself to have the feelings
that you are having no matter what they are. Hopefully your family will give you
that space to grief even though time as passed and I am sure most people feel
you should be healed by now. There is no real time frame on grief. It is
different for everyone. Please be gentle with yourself.
>
>  I am glad you wrote. It is a reminder to me that even though my little one
died 4 years ago this month I am still allowed to miss and mourn him. A mother's
love never dies.  
>
>
>
>
> ________________________________
> From: justsambritt <justsambritt@...>
> To: shareatlantasupport@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Sat, October 10, 2009 3:14:16 PM
> Subject: [SHARE Atlanta Preg. & Newborn Loss Grief Support] I don't know what
to do i need help
>
>  
> 11 yrs ago i lost my baby girl Samantha she was stillborn. All my feelings are
now just to start coming out. I have kept this in for 11 yrs i am so angry at my
mother in law and husband for doing my daughter's funeral i was left out.
Samantha was born by csection and i was in the hospital for 3 days they wanted
her buried before i got out of the hospital,i just need someone to talk to. I
have not talking to my mother in law since Samantha's birthday last yr. I am
tired of holding my feelings in so i just went off on her and my husband. I know
it's wrong GOD says forgive but they took something from me i can never have
back my Samantha's casket was closed so i never got to see her again before she
was buried. I am just so mad that i was left out i mean i carried her and i
loved her more than they did. If you can help me please do. thanks Tammy Lee
>