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Re: [Selective Mutism Support Group] My Daughter and her struggle   Message List  
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Hi Kristy, sorry for the delayed response. Your email got shuffled out of where
it should have been in my inbox.

Your daughter is showing great signs to eliminate her SM.

The idea that she wants to progress is great. She most likely is too nervous to
start speaking because she has spent so long not doing so. My own daughter
explained it as the words stuck in her throat, and also worried that when she
first spoke, people would make a big deal out of it. She worried so much about
being centered out, that the teacher or adults would say loudly "oh, you spoke!"

What is important is that you let her teacher know that she should not say
anything about Taylor's speaking. Just pretend like she always spoke in class.
Some children find it easier to speak if first they speak quietly as the teacher
stands outside the door. They maybe a few days later, they speak with the
teacher in the room but facing away from the child. This should be as gradual
as the child feels comfortable. Maybe read a book with the teacher nearby. SM
children seem to be less anxious if they read written words, rather than speak
their own words. Over time the child can speak directly to the teacher, either
quietly or regular tone. My daughter found that if no one commented on her
speaking, she was okay. There was one occasion at the very beginning where a
child in the classroom said "hey, Laura spoke to the teacher!" and my daughter
was most upset. The children were spoken to about that with Laura not in the
room. They had been told earlier, but it was such a shock to some of them, that
I suppose they forgot not to say anything. So, prepare the classroom children
as well.

Let us know how it works out, please!

Julie
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Sun Jan 22, 2006 3:42 pm

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Hi Kristy, sorry for the delayed response. Your email got shuffled out of where it should have been in my inbox. Your daughter is showing great signs to...
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Jan 22, 2006
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Hi Julie, Thank you for your words of encouragement. Hearing from others who understand Sm and have gone through it makes a world of difference. In your...
Kristy Smart
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Jan 23, 2006
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Hi Kristy ... Yes, SM is something that needs to be tackled one step at a time. Gradually adding in people and more words, or louder words, and different...
follow.your.heart@...
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Jan 23, 2006
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I agree too. My daughter Bri did not speak at pre-school for a few months and then her friend Ebony (a neighbour at the time and one of the rare people she did...
Kylie Dinning
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Jan 24, 2006
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Hi Kylie, HOw did your daughter begin to talk , Just that one time with the neighbor friend and then transferred it to the daycare? My problem is Taylor who...
Kristy Smart
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Jan 24, 2006
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Hi Kristy, It took quite a long time and my daughter was very young when I first found out about SM. She was not quite 3 when a speech pathologist mentioned...
Kylie Dinning
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Jan 25, 2006
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