hi thanks for the info all of you... I have gotten a lawayer and so far things
are great he walked into court with no lawyer and a bad attitude and left with
supervised visitation at my parents and a $100 a week child support. I tried to
find out when he wants to see his son and was toldd that he was angry and felt
unjust and is getting a lawyer the next day and would work it out that way..
Well it started may 17, then this court order happened may 25 also when I was
told he was getting a lawyer the next day... Well I seen my lawyer yesterday and
he hadent heard a word from my ex or a lawter whichis a little concerning
because his father told us both he would have a lawyer the next day and his
father can surely afford it.. the lawyer said he doesent feel we have anything
to worry about but at the same time this is a little concerning, I know him and
he is not done yet and is up to something, but what? Then on the way back were
at a red light and who comes aside us.. him
and he looked smiled a smirky smile, the same one that sends chills down my
spine and now Im scared. So I have been racking my brain and the only thing I
came up with is my ex.

He was an convicted felon and we had a few disputes about 5 or more years ago
but no charges ever made and I stayed friends with his sister. He recently got
arrested 6+ months ago and I went with his sister to see him and my son was with
us sleeping...........but i wouldnt think this could be used against me either,
we were in a safe place, he wasent even 2 and thats it but thats the only thing
I can think of .. do you think this could matter, I dont see how but then again
I never know I have never been arrested nor in trouble or in a custody dispute.

Im just so scared he is so cruel to any extent, he never spent much of anyy
time and if time little to no attention to our son, his mom and step father were
both in mental wards as well as his sister, he has a horrible drinking problem
along with gambling and drugs and ontop of it all he is nastily predjudice its
scary.

Its just I know he wouldnt have not got a lawyer and I know he would have
contacted mine (lawyer) if he felt he had no choice but to make a deal and then
that smirk yesterday.. Im petrified. Anyone know the rules about being friends
with a convict buut not a violent one and you have never been in trouble thouh.



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1. Re: rsd and custody serious need of help
From: "jenn wilding" jennwilding@...

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Message 1
From: "jenn wilding" jennwilding@...
Date: Fri May 19, 2006 0:56pm(PDT)
Subject: Re: rsd and custody serious need of help

Hi Diane,

I also agree that you need a lawyer, I am from NY and have had to deal wit my ex
suing me for custody and has never won. I did not have this monster at the time,
but custody issues are not about who can physically take care of your son, but
who is the better parent and who has te most stability. Also, if you are not
currently working you can apply for leagal aid, I'm not sure what part of NY you
are in, I was in Orange County. Your ex Can Not take or get custody of your son
just because you have RSD, he needs to prove that you are unfit as a parent,
with all the extra, close family support you have I don't think that should be
an issue. I think he should be worried about his rap sheet, and by the way do
you have dated pictures of the bruises on your body, and are the pictures taken
so that they can see you and your face in them, this way there is no denying
that it's you. When you go to court make sure that you have copies of all his
brushes with any and
all police depts., and most of all be honest and be you, the judge can not take
your son away just because you have RSD. If they did that, then everyone that
had a disease or syndrome would loose their children. Good luck, and keep in
touch, let me know how things turn out.
Many huggs and kisses,
Jennifer

"Diane .H." wrote:
I havent wrote in a while I have been having bad days and I just
left my sons father. I had been seeking abuse counseling for a
couple of months now because he wasent great before the disease but
became terrible after. In tje beginning he was okay but within 3
months of my fall he began getting meaner and meaner, stole my meds
took what very little money I had, would refuse to push me in my
wheelchair ever and dint want to be seen with me unless I had a good
day and walked, wheelhairs embarased him, well he finally hit me for
the first time yesterday. I made a police repot and have been seeing
a domestic abuse hotline for months so I packed all my sons and I
clothes all his toys my family and I purchased, my dresser , one of
the babies bed the one given to me not the one he bought , my 2
small tvs and a thrift store vcr and a playstation and left him
with the babies bed he brought, the babies and his dresser and both
our beds the one we have packed, the BIG tv, china closent with all
my fine dishware, all photos except the ones of just me and the baby
the dishes couch entertainment center, nicknakes all the nice art
work, my 2 antique endtable and chip in dale mirror(these 2 id like
back) the bar, basically almost everything and now he says he is
going to tell them I took more than my share.


The main reason Im writing is because I have RSD pretty bad and
have to go to the er atleasrt once a month for pain but because they
hav been tril and erroring and I now need to find a hospitol or
clinic in new york who can figure all whats wrong they think sd and
other nerve damage(if anyone knows any Ill be very grateful) but as
you all no you have good and bad days butI always care for my son
whether Im in pain or not and on te absolute unbearable days we stay
at my moms and she watches him or if I need or want she also can
take meto my appointments or hospitol and my aunt or grandma can
watch my baby boy... but the father says no judge will give me
custody becuse of the rsd. Is this true? I have plenty of help and
good and bad days and getting in for treatments and have always
taken care of him can the father really take custody from me? Im
scared do disabled parents have rights to keep custody ? Can the
other parent who is not disabled but had a past dwi, 2 bar fights a
drinking and gambling problem, a dropped harassment charge that got
dropped and now the bruises on me realy win custody just because im
hurt? Whats my disability parental rights, I live in ny any help or
even where to ask would be greatly appreciated. Thanks






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