Stages in the PN cycle

Here are some general characteristics to help you determine what
stage are you in your PN cycle? Remember, I've done many of these
things myself, so I'm sharing this, not out of judgment, but out of
my own experiences going thru these cycles. If you honestly look at
everything on this list, you will identify with many of the things
listed here. The Beginning Stage is unavoidable since we all must
start somewhere. But how long you stay at the Beginning Stage is
your choice. All of us have the ability to make changes. Your
Beginning Stage can be very short, or it can be for the rest of your
life. I also factor in the morbidity affect towards my family, as
that gives me additional motivation to change.

As you read more postings here, pay attention to the poster's
attitude, and what characteristics they exhibit from this list, so
you can determine what stage that poster is at in his or her PN
cycle. I've listed the following characteristics randomly. You
may experience some or all of these characteristics, and not
necessarily in this particular order.

THE BEGINNING STAGE:

Initial Diagnosis (Hopefully done correctly)

You have more questions, than answers (Expect it at this stage)

Questions, many questions, and even questions you don't know to ask
yet

You have some answers, but the wrong questions, which doesn't help

Looking for answers from Allopathic medicine, since that is what you
currently know

Willing to give allopathic doctors almost completely control of your
treatment

Looking for the easy, magic pill to fix everything

Denial

Anger and asking, "Why me, Why me"

Lamenting the symptoms

Bemoaning that there is no cure, no causes, and nobody has solutions
(very typical defensive posture)

Dismissing solutions outside of Allopathic medicine

Must try more Allopathic treatments since you still feel it's the
answer

Unwilling to accept personal responsibility for PN

Deflecting any solutions involving work, discipline, personal
responsibility, accountability and will.

Rationalizing that what you are doing now is your honest best

Eager to embrace popular messages where little to nothing is asked
of you

Eager to embrace popular messages where you are not deemed
responsible for your PN

Eager to embrace any message to deflect responsibility elsewhere

Anger at honest messages with difficult solutions you don't like

Doesn't have the right attitude, so changes at this stage is short-
lived and unsustainable

May only make some small changes reluctantly and begrudgingly

Expects linear healing, where if you do half the recommendations,
you expect half improvement

Doesn't realize healing is cumulative, not linear

Ignores known drug risks and expects unrealistic results

Still thinks of the human body as just a collection of parts, to be
treated independently with drugs

Doesn't recognize the Disease Cascade: Health, Sub-Clinical,
Clinical, Full Blown Disease, and Death.

Doesn't recognize the Healing Cascade: Right Attitude, Sustained
correction of root causes, Health.

Eager to criticize other protocols or methods, but doesn't have
anything better and safer to get results

Will believe many things the doctor tells him or her

Doesn't have confidence to challenge the doctor's assumptions or
treatment protocols

Passive patient, willing to go along with the doctor's program,
despite no track record of success

Willing to take drugs, even off label, regardless of risks

Obsessed with labeling the disease, and compartmentalizing it

Confusing causes and effects and lumping them together

Dismiss very natural follow up questions that challenge the theory

Will believe in Allopathic Medicine, even when it has not delivered
a real cure

Overvalue peer-reviewed research, even when said research has
netting no real cure

Will defend methods and protocols, even when it doesn't deliver a
real cure

Feels the drug risks are worth taking as his or her best option

Not truly open to alternative, complementary and integrative methods

Takes a mutually exclusive approach to coping with PN

Willing to adopt misleading labels that do not reflect real results





TRANSITION STAGE: (Tipping point, Turning point stage)

You reached your epiphany, and finally realized what you've done so
far, isn't working

You are sick and tired of endless symptom coping, and now willing to
make meaningful changes

You understand what Einstein was saying, "Insanity is doing the same
things, over and over, and expecting different results"

You are finally willing to get real, and correct root causes for
sustainable positive results

You are now ready, both psychologically and emotionally, and have
the right attitude to make and sustain the changes, willingly, and
willfully






TRUE HEALING STAGE:

You now have more answers than questions

You ask "How" and "What" questions, which is focused on the future,
the solutions and results

You rarely ask "Why" questions, since it is usually a defensive
reaction focused on past decisions

You embrace all healing methods and integrate it into your overall
healing journey

You no longer looking for shortcuts, but realistically safer
sustainable solutions

Acceptance, rather than Denial

The energy for anger is refocused towards what and how to get to
real solutions and results

Confident enough to take control of your healing journey

No lamenting, bemoaning, blaming, deflecting and rationalizing

Accepts personal responsibility and realize that is the first step
to changing the attitude

Eager to embrace solutions even when the solutions are difficult and
not what you want to hear

Has the right attitude to sustain changes willingly and willfully

Realizes drugs are not the best option

See the human body holistically, as dependent and interdependent

Recognizes the Disease and Healing Cascade

Not attached to protocols and methods, but to the results

Aggressive patient, willing to challenge doctor's assumptions and
treatment protocols

Knows the difference between causes and effects

Willing to ask the tough questions to get to the root causes

Honest about what is a real cure, and what is just symptom coping

Willing to correct the root causes