Cyn, I must say that I have enjoyed your posts (perhaps "enjoyed" is not the right term, but I have benefited, and I feel a strong sense of empathy with much...
I haven't experienced assault by a stranger so I have no personal experience to go by (I have experienced partner assault) but, logically, it makes sense that...
... question ... This is exactly how I feel too. How to break free is indeed the question. My relationship was much shorter than B's (months rather than years)...
thanks for your comments. it helps me make sense of it all too. i have new hope that i will get over this and have different thinking as i heal. I was...
... I agree. People tend to think of the "self" part of "self esteem" solely in terms of how we think about ourselves. That obviously a large part of it, but...
Personally I think it is often dangerous to try to "rank" which kind of assault is "worse" than onother. What is traumatic for 1 person may not be as traumatic...
It's funny how that works out sometimes. It just goes to show that we all have something to give AND something to learn. ... -- - Keith, Loving Partner to...
Thanks Keith- uyour words are helpful. In my case both were horrible and the second hard too because i was already shakey on my feet. I am trying to heal-...
The 10th anniversary of my Partner's assault has come and gone. It was a difficult one for Tracey because she had many mixed emotions about it. It was a good...
Keith, I'm just wondering...do you think there might come a time when September 29th comes and goes without any recollection of what happened 10 years ago...
... At first, I didn't understand the connection with your FIL's birthday so, I stepped away for awhile and, watched a program on National Geographic called...
... OOPS... Sorry about that Christopher. We did give one piece of the cake to someone else..... A friend of mine for almost 10 years that has helped support...
I do look to that as an ultimate goal, however Tracey's father's birthday also falls on that day so it is hard to forget. Even sending a birthday card and...
Can I just ask you why you go on the web sites? Is there something that you are missing from your wife? I am not saying that you should not do this I am just ...
That is nice that there is still at least some sex. We have not had sex in 9 mths. He does not even try. ... TCruz __________________________________ Yahoo!...
He has been in therapy for 2 1/2 years. It almost seems like the no sex thing is getting worse. We do kiss and cuddle that has really not changed. It is the...
HI, Tracy, there is no real communication between my wife and me. Her boundaries are such that she cannot bring herself to speak of her abuse in any way shape...
Boundaries, these are quite the concept and merely a suggestive reality that we impose upon ourselves. I know for myself that I created boundaries that had...
Hi Scott, I think for me the biggest problem at this point in time is not knowing the boundaries. They seem to be really indistinct. As far as sexuality being...
Woodman, I have been in those places somewhat. Although my wife did talk to me about kids, she would not talk about anything else, and I was to blame for the...
Scott, this is thought provoking stuff. I tend to deal with boundary issues quite often, especially in regards to my mother. It is hard to feel justified in...
I just found this group today. Hopefully I'm not barging in unwelcome. I'm going through something I simply have no idea how to cope with, and I was hoping,...
Im new to this group as well, I have only been a part of it for a couple weeks but alot of you seem to know how to deal with these issues as they come up. How...
Welcome to the group. I am glad you have found us though I am so sorry you have a reason to be here. It sounds like you are really going through a very tough...
That's an interesting distinction. It was fairly common for my ex to say she doesn't want to discuss something, and then if I tried, she would say I was...
-Hi, I'm not sure where to draw the line on that one but in my case I think it is control motivated by great fear. I've let him have much control over when we...
This story sounds almost exactly like my story and I am sure many others. I have been married 3 years and my husband said the same thing. He had 2 affairs...
listening. As has been suggested many times on this site, I advise buying the book, 'Allies in Healing' by Laura Davis, for a better understanding of what is...
