I know from conversations when my wife and I began to date that she rarely stayed in a relationship very long. She did confide that she had this particular...
hello. just starting to experience the turmoil of my fiance's past. starting to experience, very suddenly, being held at arm's length, lack of affection...
Welcome, this is a good place for support as it is scary. if you read some of the posts on hear you will see many similar stories, you are not alone .... It is...
I know this is more a question for other partners but I felt maybe I should share. Personally, I had a serious relationship about a year after my assult that...
Welcome to the board. Cyn had some really good information. If at all possible you need to try and persuade her to get into therapy. It might be helpful if you...
communicate till hell freezes over........there are many people here that can help you walk through it.. it will be a long, long walk.. whatever you do, do...
Sorry for the late reply. No problem Shelley I appreciate all replies, sometimes all that is need is a bit of support or just knowing someone is reading the ...
hi daisy. thank you for your reply. what did your husband do to turn things around? she is my soul's mate for sure and that's why it is so confusing to get...
Matt, first of all you need to understand fully that YOU cannot do anything to fix her. Only she can change the patterns that come with being a survivor. My...
Matt, I will second Daisy on the Therapy. I couldn't have made it through the begining of this story if I had not have gone. I have learned and have much to...
Daisy and Scott. I agree. Therapy for the partner is a necessity and very vital to healing yourself. I thought at one point I was going crazy with anger,...
Hey everyone, Well she is moving out as we speak. Says that she needs the space to think about us. Is agreeing to joint counseling. I am not freaking out...
Its two weeks since my partner (or now ex partner) moved out and she is coping so well and I am the one left behind who is not coping at all. I feel that I...
Hmm...well my first instinct is to say...don't push it right now as she has agreed joint counseling...that's a real plus and you're lucky there. Maybe in a...
erik, don't start a conflict here...approach it as " why doesn't she leave daughter here until she is settled"..something like that.. a hardline " not taking...
IT WILL GET BETTER, IN YOUR HEART YOU KNOW THAT....time is never your best friend when your love has left you behind.. let it hurt.. feel the loss.. do please...
I hear what you are saying, I really do. Thing is I want to let her run and I try so hard not to contact her but I am tormented with thoughts that if I leave...
... I know this is where he wants to be, I'll stop expecting more and just sort of continue on my life's journey and accept that mabye this is "as good as it...
I agree with BK I think she will be better off with you and that is of the primary importance, it just makes sense. A gentle but cunning approach is best. If...
... positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, "dolliedaydreaming" ... she is ... all. ... in it ... and ... Hey force yourself to start get out do something...
i am not making light of your situation, but read what you wrote ...then read it again..she has you on a leash.." i would rather have her here abusing me than...
Erik, no one can tell you what is right at this moment. You have to follow your feelings, but remember this is your daughter's mother. I know your wife is...
You are both right in what you say ... I know that and hugs back at you thank you. I suppose looking back I have become trapped in this world of hers where we...
For all of us old and new that are hurting, the advice of others here needs to be taken seriously. I learned this in my beginning. Anger, despair, and hurt...
I think it would be more helpful if you earnestly describe the hurt and the injustice in logical terms. The survivor has a defective world view. By kowtowing ...
you are not alone. listen to the advice you have already been given. contact a friend or family member and make plans to do something/ anything with someone...
I am so glad I found this site, you people are so helpful and it is an incredible releif to know that what is happening to me is normal for someone who is...
