Greetings, Through therapy my wife of 20 years uncovered that she had been sexually and physically abuse by her father when she was early elementary school and...
... moment, ... It seems sometimes a survivor may live very "in the moment" and their outlook may change from moment to moment. ... My xgf survivor has come...
Thanks PG.We've been here for awhile haven't we, lol?And listened to so many stories with many a similar theme...And just so YOU know, I'm doing not too badly,...
Thanks so much for the sharing. It always helps to hear from those of you with experience. I am a teacher and coach as well as my SO. I never knew of the abuse...
Hello! I am so sorry. I too have been placed in the category with his abuser. I would never have believed this could happen since his perp. was a male. I...
Hey Angry, I know this is a hard situation. But what I'm trying to get through to you is to concentrate on you and the children. I think you might be better...
Hello All, I found this group out of desparation in an attempt to gain some knowledge about adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse and to somehow find some...
Welcome there is a lot of support here. Sad to say his story is familar, it will be a lot of work for him to heal. Think years if not decades depending on a...
Try to find a copy of "Allies in Healing" by Laura Davis for a start.It will give you some insight and tips on how you could manage.Also there was a good...
Hello everyone. Just wanted to talk again. Thanks for your love, prayers, thoughts and advice. This weekend me and my SO spent time together with our kids at...
You are asking for answers within what most ppl call normality.Our survivor partners fall outside this tidy realm and each have their own issues and ways in...
I'm at a crossroads. A few months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of six years, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. We have been living apart for...
To Bill and Cyn, First of all, thank you so much for your support. I really appreciate it. I do realize that I need to take care of myself and from reading...
Yes, boundaries and expectations are a very good start. Even just working out the boundaries for yourself. I know that after I set these I felt so much...
No one can make that decesion for you (kinda sucks, doesn't it?). You have to decide what your mind and hard wants and what is best for you. As for your ex's...
I would like to be assured that recovery actually happens, I am facing, --life, meet drain. My children are a concern to me. My little girl's world view may be...
Complete recovery as if the abuse never happened? I'd say no but there are a few that do manage to heal and recover a lot. Sad to say most do not. With out...
Thank you, Keith, for your understanding words. Many of them, I feel as if I could have written myself. It is good to know that I am not alone. My ex...
... I'm glad that my words were able to help in at lease some small way. Feeling alone sucks. The reason that I was able to write what I did is because I have...
I see some very good advice and comments to you and I agree with them so will be more brief...My ex wasn't working on herself, and in fact was in total denial...
It happens to lots of us, b/c we become the one they love and trust, and so suddenly, we then fall into the same category as the original abuser, b/c they...
They can recover, if they reach a point where they must, usually at a very low ebb.The way you are being treated is common (I do know what I'm talking about...
Hi keith, thanks again. A couple of points. ... I have done this too, or at least THOUGHT that I was doing this, for years. But all she could see was that I...
hello I thought i would offer a few ideas also quoting your post and I hope this doesn't get too confusing ... I know how frustrating that is and hurtful too...
... With some Survivors, any attempt to "offer advice" may run the risk of sounding like criticism even if the advice wansn't meant that way. There are times...
I was at a local 'outdoor adventure' store this afternoon. At one point they were going to look up some records while I standing at the counter but, they...
I just joined this group about a week ago. I'm hoping it will help me with some of the many things I'm trying to deal with right now. I guess today I'm just...
Does anyone know if there is any non-online support groups in Iowa? Does anyone know how to find out? Is anyone else located in Iowa and interested in starting...
Mark - Welcome to the group. There are some very supportive people here. In regards to your post, Tracey and I have been in similiar shoes from time to time...
Thanks for the advice. We met with our councilor earlier and it seemed to help, and yes I did apologize for not getting her signal she wanted to stop talking....
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