I'm still looking for a therapist and just purchased a couple of books on survivors, so I actually know very little about what to expect. The man I love told...
Hi Try- As in everything else, no two people are the same. However, for me, my partner had what I would call trust/control issues, coupled with boundary ...
Yes, I agree that no two people and situations are the same. I think the larger more important question here is "what issues do I, as a co-dependant person,...
Hi Candy, there are certainly some similarities with our situations! Anyways I just received a book yesterday from amazon.ca called Survivors and Partners:...
Jackie- I was struck by something in your post just now that I have been contemplating for a few days... The concept of *taking things personally*. ...
Dear Jackie, I found the more you learn the more you understand so good for you for reading and learning. I wish you the best. PrettyGumbo [Non-text portions...
Dear Scott, You really do remind me of myself and I think this is why I usually always make a comment. But as long as you have that positive attitude nothing...
Hi Julie, I guess there is a difference in not taking things personally as in not feeling like it's your fault or in any way that you are responsible for...
PrettyGumbo Yeah, I'm smilin' today, again... it's like contagious or somethin'. Thank you for helping me sort though some feelings. I am ready and willing to...
The following is a conversation that I have had a million times in my mind. I feel the need to verbalize this in some form. To stand up for my feelings and...
Scott, I beleive if you really feel you need to say something you should say it bottling up feelings is bad..... wow do you know how angry you sound? Not...
Scott, Good step to vent it here first. I would actually run it by your T too. Just reading what you have written I would draw several inferences and feelings...
Thank you for the responses to this post. I read this to my T today in session. She had a few points to soften the anger, to make certain that the meaning of...
Rita, I am so sorry. you knew the walls going back up were not a good sign - but who would have guessed how bad it was? It sounds like this was the last...
Oh, Rita I am so sorry. I can really feel your pain right now. I don't have any wisdom or answers for you. I can only tell you that I am crying on the...
Hi Rita- Yes, do what feels right, and try not to focus on tomorrow or next week, but if things are that heavy, just worry about putting one foot in front of...
Hi Rita, I too am so sorry to hear of this latest development for you.Sounds like a good plan to get away for a while and be with a good supportive friend. My...
two more books that may be helpful as they deal with infidelity and also have sections on healing with your partner as well as for when the relationship ends-...
Oh Rita, I am so sorry to hear your bad news.I too was prepared to work through any kind of difficulty in my marriage, but infidelity and being treated like...
Oh, Rita. I don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there. Just when you think you can't tolerate the current situation one more minute...
Well I talked to the T today and was told that I needed to have that conversation with the wife, about my feelings. It was suggested that I e-mail the...
Sometimes I wonder why I do this. Why am I hanging in there? Am I waiting for something to happen, something to change? Am I in this relationship because...
Christopher, I haven't posted in a while. I have been keeping somewhat of a 'low-profile', so as to not think, anything and, everything, was related to her...
... Yes, He is 15mos.-old ... The couple with, 'fertility issues' is, the adoptive couple. As to the baby going up for adoption, indirectly, that was my doing...
Ruby, 'they' all seem to be like this to a greater or lesser extent.They just can't see the grief we go through b/c our love is not seemingly returned, or...
... Same here. ... I wonder that, myself. ... Same here. ... She does touch me and, we do have fun. She has just never called me handsome. ... Ditto ... Hmmm ...
It can be called manipulative, defensive, irrational… But it certainly can't be healthy that she said `no one will have to worry about anything if I die'....
... Yes ... I hear this, from my fiance, almost weekly, if not daily, in one form or, another. ... Same with my fiance. It doesnlt matter if, she looks like...
... Who was the letter to? ... Sounds like he is a master at being conniving, deceptive and, spiteful? ... Good, you need that, for yourself. ... While I have...
Rita, I am so sorry. I too remember the sting when I found out about my ex. I was working on her computer and fixing some stuff when I ran across emails...
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