I'm feeling so exhausted at the moment. My gf is having exposure therapy to help her come to turns with being raped. She sees her therapist once a week, the...
Hi Marga- I really feel for you here. As partners, we need to give ourselves pats on the back from time to time. Survivors have the tough work, that everyone ...
I can totally relate to the eyedrops thing. Last night I bought my sister in law's Christmas present. It was the "wrong" Guide to Beedwork. LOL. I could...
Good for you about standing up about your need to use this forum for YOUR support. My partner too gets a little uneasy about my talking about "our" situation,...
Thanks, Julie. I've just taken some time out to have a bath, with some gorgeous Lush products. Sue asked me if I needed time to myself because she was a bad...
I would much rather be a sucker, in the end, than a ... I know you would Julie, and all the others here, b/c we'd have been gone after only a short time.That's...
Hi Marga- Good for YOU! I am envious. My mom is visiting from out of town and while it is great having her here, it does preclude me from having ANY time ...
To answer your questions: 1. He does not suspect me, he suspects every man that looks my direction. I know it's a lack of trust, and not me. If I thought it...
Adam, I can relate to the "throwing it in her face" comments. If I would try to explain to her how confusing it was her ever-changing attitude towards me (hot...
I agree with Julie and Bill. I don't believe pursuits outside the relationships is conducive to healing for either party. You're sending a message about sex...
Good point Bill. I guess now I aspire to be someone who is steadfast in my love and compassion, but can be productive and steadfast in myself as well. ... ...
I don't know where to begin. I've been up all night. I'm feeling totally helpless and I am hoping someone can help me understand what my husband is going...
... Yes - go to counseling! Yes - read "Victims No Longer - The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse" by Mike Lew and "Allies in Healing"...
Wow. Ditto. I have a password protected computer at home, protected from my husband. He has a sick obsession with sex too. I catch him flipping through...
... They could be. Sexually compulsive behavior of some kind is very common with people who have been sexually abused. ... I'd say that seeing a counselor or...
I would like to jump in here! Congrats to everyone who seeks out this forum and is looking for the support we all need. My wife comes from a childhood that...
Rita honey, Your comment about "pulling the plug on your life's dream....". I believe the day we got involved with our Survivors, the plug started slowly...
So you're a friend of a friend of Bill's? I'm a friend of Bill's. I'll have 3 years on the 23rd. Congrats on making the decision to change your life. God be...
Thanks for the support! I'm on my way to a meeting tonight. Please tell me a little of your experiences with "Bill" sometime if you get time. I would be ...
. ... dream! ... Rita, that statement echoes my thoughts...Like you, I didn't consider leaving just b/c it was tough, but when faced with DID and being treated...
Dear amb, Yes definately the behaviors are from abuse. The more you learn the more you'll understand. Read books on the subject, Allies in healing is great and...
Please take Nadia's advice...yes, his behaviour is undoubtably related.But each survivor found a way of dealing with their abuse and so vary.It won't be easy...
Myself & my brother were repeatedly molested in Oregon when I was 10, I am 40 with a huge amount of mental problems from it. A couple of years ago he...
Hello and welcome.I think you should seek a lawyer who handles abuse cases.Since they do their thing on a contingency basis and therefore it is free, it...
... Well, First, not being critical or, demeaning yet, I would like to get an idea of, what you think, he is going through? His reaction to, your thinking...
I also think it might be wise to seek legal advise. I think some lawyers will do a free first appointment before you decide whether to proceed or not. Don't...
