It's so good to know I'm not alone. I've spent so long trying to find support on the net, but there seems to be so little available for partners. It's almost...
<U>Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child</U> by Laura Davis There is another book out there written by and man called: ...
David, you don't have to take the pain and pressure any longer than you can handle it. I find it is always an option for me to say "enough", although I...
A couple of people have made comments along the lines of whether I should "get out", but the truth is I could never do that. I love my girlfriend far too much....
Welcome Dave, I am fairly new here also, it seems to me that several people are ex- partners. I too felt like I was advised more then once to weigh the issues...
Dave, your commitment to your gf is honorable. Yes many here are exes...most of us probably not by choice however. Usually we have been willing to stick in...
Dave - I'm new here and it has been an eye opener. I thought I was alone - guess not. But, enough of that. Let me talk about the "Do I stay or do I leave ...
Well last night I got an email from my xgf telling me all about how she went to church on Sunday for the first time since "sometime last summer" (which was...
I have read everything I could find on child sexual abuse for several years. My husband and I have more self-help books then the library. Recently, I joined...
I am having difficulty dealing with the sexual abuse which my close friend experienced by her step-father. There are several factors which disturb me, such...
... This was her way of making it hurt less. If she wanted it, it wasn't abuse. If it wasn't abuse, then her 15 year old mind didn't have to deal with the pain...
Some things about your post disturb me a little bit. The main thing is your saying "at 16 she should know better". It has nothing to do with whether or not...
Your friend was a child. It sounds like her step-father had her confused about many things. Besides, a child just wants love. If the only "love" they get is...
i would like to thank everyone for there reponses. i would like to let everyone know that i do not blame her for this abuse. she does feel guilty about it and...
Well careful here. You may want this creep put away, but it is really up to your friend to act if she has it in her. Your friend did not lead her step-father...
... You have to understand one thing. Her healing is not about you. It has nothing to do with you. It is for her and must be done by her for her and her alone....
I am the person that my friend has written about. I have read your responses. And now, here is mine: This is a place that is suppose to offer support and...
... It does. And the reason we're so adamant about him not interfering is that because we have walked this road for a long time and we know the consequences of...
He did not violate your trust - it clearly states that surviors of partners are welcomed to help support their partners. that was what i was doing. What you...
... You're right, it does. But I still have a problem with him sharing emails without telling us he was doing so or that you were reading what was written. ...
Hi there. Well this thread has gotten a little complicated. Please understand, that some of us were not meaning to attack your friend. He just came across as...
Well hopefully, I may have, by some miracle, done something right. My xgf survivor has just told me as of yesterday she loves everything I write, she looks...
Reading what you have to say about recently discovering your significant other's sexual abuse reminds me of something my shrink said to me the last time I was...
finally i think someone has insight into my frustration. she doesn't seem to be mad. she blames herself. she even has photo albums which he is in them. i...
... You completely missed the point of his post. ... Which is a clear indicator that she's still not far into her healing. ... She does not NEED to hate HIM...
You really need to quit telling her how she should feel. I understand your being angry at her perp, but your friend does NOT need to feel as you do. A lot of...
Dave, you made really great points and I really like this one below especially. Thanks. ... positivepartnersofsurvivors@yahoogroups.com, "mightyjackservo4000"...
I think what might help you is if you use the old "I feel" phrase in front of everything you express and leave out "I want her to" or "I want everyone to" or...
You certainly aren't invisible to her--- but survivors can be "selfish" (which is a necessary part of survival and of healing), and they do-or-don't-do-things...
Your courage, and his, shine brightly. The road is never easy, for anyone... and I don't think it's possible to erase totally the impact of child sexual...
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