Your discomfort sounds similar to what survivors feel when faced with things from their past. You are showing us a very brave Hutch right now... a Hutch...
By luck, I have just come a cross a co-worker who is in a somewhat similar situation -- both he and his gf suffered emotional and physical abuse in their...
Thank you Kathy for this. I was out of town for a few days otherwise would have thanked you sooner. I read it before I left though and your words were...
Thanks again Kathy for your thoughts on this subject. I guess I wish it did mean I should stick by her no matter what...because then maybe I'd be able to have...
Thank you ... I keep trying to remember that. With my relationship with M completely crashing and burning around me, and now this ... I'm terrified, frankly...
Thank you. I appreciate your words of encouragement. I don't think M and I are going to make it, to be honest. After last night's tirade ... I'll not repeat...
Well, he also shared that in some ways it was doubly difficult, which is what I think I was expecting. The strengthening aspect was a surprise, but it allowed...
Thanks for the kind words. I just got off the phone with my wife and she is having an IBS attack because of a job interview today. She begged me to leave work...
Panic attacks in regard to job interviews are common... and happen to those who aren't dealing with abuse issues. It is a very common "human thing" to have a...
I am feeling angry, yet distant from the source of anger. It is so easy for slight anger at any of my life's challenges to lead me towards anger at my gf. This...
Orfeo_il_riluttante, Re-thinking in the same way circumstances you can never change will only fuel your frustration, anxiety and exhaustion. Left unchanged, ...
Kathy, I wanted to pick your "nurse" brain a little. Needless to say, I've been under a lot of mental stress over the summer due to my recent separation and...
Hi Simon, I agree with you that frustration, anxiety, and exhaustion increase with desperately re-thinking events, scenarios, etc... ...there are a lot of...
orfeo_il_riluttante, I hear your frustration and you said it best by stating, "What About Me?" That is the essence to why this site exists. It is not clear to...
Right after I started working at my present job, I tried to donate blood for the first time since college (about 10 yrs or more ago), because we get paid for...
Dear Jennifer, Have you seen a doctor about the depression? I know where you're coming from I've been there myself. Maybe a doctor will prescribe an anti-...
... Jennifer, if I may add my two cents worth...It has been a year since I left my survivor wife knowing it was just no good...mostly I'm doing ok, but every...
Bill, Just wondering if you feel comfortable to share a little more about your hypnosis. Have you been doing it long? How does it help? What is the process...
I'm giving up now. I have become convinced, myself, that there is no way to salvage anything at all with M, and frankly, I no longer have the heart for it. I'm...
Dear Hutch, you are at that place I was a year ago.It's a very dark, lonely place, but it can get better.My cave is my new apartment condo, and that's exactly...
I haven't tried this for myself yet (going today) but I took my daughter to a lady for her weight problem and although it's early days, there are signs it may...
Hi, I'm Dave, and I'm married to a wonderful woman who is a survivor of incest and physical and emotional abuse. She was diagnosed with DID (Dissociative...
And, of course, I immediately felt a sense of relief just by posting on this list, but for the rest of the day and this morning random things would set me off....
I was "triggered" by something you said, and haven't read the other replies as yet. Here is the sentence that grabbed me: "...But he was able to justify what...
You said, "I wish I knew a nice cave to go to." Sounds like another way of saying "I need a vacation!" Follow your heart, and do what feels right, for...
Sure Bill, I would be very interested in knowing how it went for you. Interestingly my xgf went to hypnotherapy to try coping with her abuse issues. I really...
Welcome, Dave. I believe many of the folks here are familiar with DID- - no need to explain it; some here have lived with it, too. I certainly can understand...
Thanks. I appreciate that a great deal. I don't really feel very needed right now, and I'm trying to get a vacation but it probably won't happen until October....
Well it's been 3 weeks now since I last talked with my xgf survivor and about 4 weeks since I sent her the letter that resulted in her contacting me after 7...
Thanks for the reply and the warm welcome and the understanding. I'm going to respond to things you bring up in your post in no particular order... ... of ......
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