Did you know that: Go to: http://stopviolence.care2.com/welcome?w=550953490 - In the US, a woman is raped every 6 minutes; a woman is battered every 15...
Kathy: Thanks SO much for your reply. It has put things a bit more in perspective for me and allowed me to stop second-guessing my own ideas about what's...
I have few words of encouragement for you, but so much of what you describe echoes my life here with M. I cannot begin to fathom so much of what is going on in...
I often think of how much harder this could be if Laurie and I had moved in together. She actually asked me THREE different times to move in with her, only to...
You said, "Laurie told me several months ago that she read "Courage to Heal" years ago. I don't know if she really did or not." She will tell you what she...
In a message dated 6/3/04 3:31:30 PM Pacific Daylight Time, ... I am just wondering...since I am unsure of my own lessons...what are some of the lessons other...
It is good to learn that unconditional love, in whatever 'percentage' you have of it, is within you.That makes you a better person.It is well to learn you...
I can imagine that would be true. In an odd twist of fate, M is the more outgoing of the two of us, and is quite capable of looking so very ... well, normal...
There are days, Kathy, when your words are the only comfort I know, unless you count the cat who is quite oblivious to the source of my tears, although he is...
Kathy: I feel as if I should be paying you - what wonderful words you have and such a way of emparting them! I'm in tears at the end of each of your postings...
I can so relate to what you wrote about feeling crucified. Laurie and I started out with such a beautiful love, or so I thought. There were times of complete...
I wouldn't wish that indignity on anyone. It was humiliating to stand there with Laura in between Laurie and me, as if protecting her... watching Laurie look...
Amy, I completely understand your words and feelings here. Thank you. My xgf has gone on to date at least one other person after me. I don't know really how...
While my xgf did not go quite to this extreme, she blocked me in her email. I guess I wonder why such an extreme reaction? Are they that terrified of us and...
Lessons involve personal interpretation. One cool thing to do is to look at the patterns in your life... I began to notice the way the smallest of details, the...
Today, as most days, I've been thinking a lot...quite a bit about what transpired between my beloved survivor xgf. I'm remembering and wondering about a...
You ask, "What did she mean by all these hurtful things she said to me?... I was a person who just a few weeks earlier she couldn't get enough of, she couldn't...
It hurts when one you love has shut you out when she needs care and understanding... and it hurts even more that she has chosen to be with someone you don't...
In a message dated 6/5/04 10:27:23 PM Pacific Daylight Time, ... Thanks Kathy, that makes sense. This weekend I've gone back into the archives and while I...
What is it with survivors and their inability to deal with and/or their inappropriate feelings of "love" for authority figures? I think I asked this in one of...
I am assuming that by "authority figures" you mean "persons in authority over the survivor"-- such as, as you said, "the boss". Who was "the boss" when the...
1) I can't do anything right 2) I said something wrong 3) I am always wrong; you're always right 4) You think I'm stupid 5) Why do you hate me? 6) Hit me;...
Another long long night. Previously, M had determined that she would no longer speak with me without another person present so I wouldn't "drag" her into...
Her abuser was a "kindly" neighbor who gave her the attention she lacked at home. He professed to love her but threatened to hurt her if she told anyone. Her...
This list is so true. Everytime I've ever tried to talk to Laurie about how I'm feeling, I get one or more or all of these things thrown in my face. You're...
Laurie has almost always been argumentative and defensive when discussing anything with me. It's like dealing with a child or a rebellious teenager. Rarely...
Oh, do I recognise M in this, except M denies she's screaming and says I'm the defensive screaming one. I'm not saying I've never yelled at her, but it is...
... ...she called me a "freak". Another time a "lonely sad puppy" ...when I told her I loved her, she said it repulsed her to hear me say that... I saw that...
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