Christopher, I am VERY familiar with what you describe. I was accused of these things for two years. I agree 100% with Kathy - a survivor has to heal to the...
Matthew, Try to remain strong. Things aren't always as they seem. I've told people here more than once that one of my most vivid memories is L telling me that...
Look at where you are right now and what you have right now, and at what your wife is telling you. You don't have to "make the break", unless that is truly...
Thanks for your words, Bill. It's good to know that you are finding some peace in your life. Thanks for your faith in me... but my "wisdom" sometimes knows the...
And I am still wrong, doing all the wrong things. Still. Always. My own therapy, work on my own issues is not right, going in the wrong direction. From M's...
reasons i got divorced? there are many but it was a slow progression of happenings and slowly i felt dissconted to my spouse pretty much totally at the end.I...
Sometimes when others don't "see or hear", it's because that connects with something inside themselves that is too painful or scary to face. His inability to...
That's wonderful to hear. Sometimes I feel lost...or like I'm walking on eggshells. It just seems to me that if he did do some research he would understand...
Hi everyone, I just recently found out my boyfriend of 3 months was sexually molested by his cousin for several years starting when he was 12. He confessed...
Kathy, Indirectly you answer so many of my questions. It's amazing. The bit about feeling alone in a relationship, trying to be someone else. S did all of...
Hello, I have been low lately as you all probably know, but in the last few days I have picked up, things seem to be a bit brighter, my future, although still...
Hi All, Does anyone have any idea why S might have a gym obsession. She has always been keen on fitness; but now she spends 10-15 hours a week in the gym. It...
Alex, Welcome. It's good that you've found us. Firstly let me ask you a very important question. How much do you love your boyfriend? Your relationship is...
I moved out on boxing day and i am no staying at my brothers until i get my on place. I have done all i can to help her over the years and can do no more, I...
I think I may have a few moments to coherently write about my experiences of late, but I can't really be sure. I passed the holidays without an excess of...
Nige, You're a very mature bloke. Not many of us would have that kind of strength so fast. I recall my Stepmother actually did the same to my father. She would...
Hutch, It sounds like this relationship is destroying you. I hated my shrink for telling me to get out. But... But you NEED some air. This relationship is...
If you think "this new man might make her happy" PLEASE take the time to go into the archives of this board and READ. Or listen to these words I am saying and...
Hello, I have read many of the posts and many are very helpful, but I am still so overwhelmed, sad, and confused about what's happening. My husband of 5 years...
Flashbacks By Laurieann Chutis, LCSW What are they? Flashbacks are memories of past traumas. They may take the form of pictures, sounds, smells, body...
This is getting exasperating! To use an analogy, our relationship is like a game of 'four square'. 1. Square #1 represents my 'giving' to the relationship 2....
When I read here, or think by myself, I understand so much. But when I try to talk with M, it all falls completely apart. Her anger unnerves me. Tell me, is it...
I understand how you feel about this, but I'm afraid I have no answers. My partner appears to be completely unable (unwilling?) to say anything positive to...
One problem that male survivors of csa have more commonly than the female, stems from the fact that the abuse may have had elements of pleasure within it....
Welcome. Please know you are among friends, many of whom know exactly what you're talking about. Survivors of csa all "know" for certain that they are...
Hutch I am really new to this, but I have found a good way for my wife and I to talk, that is through email, I have my own address (in fact two), and L has...
Alex, I have dealt with dozens of male-on-male sexual abuse victims and survivors. While many in post trauma engaged in same sex acts and relationships, ...
Funny you should mention that. Yesterday she blocked my email. I thought about using another address, but only for a moment. That would be so wrong. Hutch ... ...
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