All, I have a problem. I like the plan. I like S. I don't have a problem letting her go wild for a while and turning my head whilst it happens. I don't have a...
I'm no expert... but I do have a strong feeling about this one.... I would suggest you trust in a higher power to take care of her, and for guidance for...
You say, "I don't have a problem letting her go wild for a while and turning my head whilst it happens." I see a few things here to comment on--- first, it's...
Bill: Seems you are starting to have something I want, Peace. I know and understand that I have to be happy and in peace does not matter of other people, I...
Kathy, I don't believe she's finished with self destruction yet. She told me she was fed up with the whorehouse and that she deserved better; but she didn't...
People, Not to suggest you stick in the quagmire. Everyone needs to protect themself. But... Our shrink used to beat me over the head for not giving up on S....
How did I cope with it? They say there are a number of stages in grieving--perhaps 7 I've heard.Whilst I was still with my wife, I started going through...
You said, " She said she isn't going back [to the whorehouse]; and that she will be right; but it is as if it happened to someone else." She can't permit...
Kathy, Mostly, I agree. I'll tell you where I am more optimistic than you: a) She does seem to mean her apologies. It annoys me that she won't get really upset...
All Last night, my beloved M told me that she didn't want me here on Christmas morning. She told me that "people" have been talking about doing an intervention...
I think it unfair if you live with false hopes. "Hope" is a survivor's scramble: it is that candle in the darkness... a life-raft- ring to cling to when your...
Ahhh Hutch! You are listening to denial at its best(worst?).If M blames everything on you, then she doesn't have to look at herself and see the monster lurking...
OK. The dreams are pretty bad lately and the holiday season seems to really bother him. I'm asuming the dreams are worse now because he is telling and...
Hutch: Seems you are taking way too much verbal abuse. When a healthy person feels she or her children might be poisoned, when people tell them they are in...
Thanks. I wish so much that I were a little more confident than I am, although my confidence has improved. But I still tend to doubt myself, and whenever...
I have been reading the posts as of late and I am deeply pained. It's so bizarre how all this happens, one minute things are moving and then wham! something ...
Many (not just the survivors of sexual abuse) find this time of year depressing, or at least confusing. There may me memories of loving grandparents, but also...
Thank you so much, Kathy. Everything you wrote makes perfect sense. Are you a counselor in this field? :) You have a tremendous understanding of the...
I am honored that you think your friend might find my words helpful... what I wrote was for him, as well as for you. He may not be angry at his mother for...
You sound really discouraged. Keep your head up. I think ALOT of us have gone through similar situations. Find something WITHIN YOURSELF to keep you...
Z - There are ways to "ritually" confront an abuser such as to write a letter and read it aout loud as if the abuser were still alive. A friend of mine wrote...
Life is so funny. I always said I would never quit my job and yet there has been a huge change in my life recently. As some of you are aware I was considering...
Bill Thank you so much. It has been my dream for a very long time. I am fortunate to have the chance. Suelynn [Non-text portions of this message have been...
Kathy, I myself am very confused by everything. She has said to me that she isn't in a position to give normally. That after stopping going the the Brothel...
I know you are confused, but she has told you everything you need to know... what you can to is look clearly at what she says, and what she does... or you can...
HEllo All I am new to the group and will summarize in brief. I am married to my wife 8 years and together 11 years. We have two children ages 6 and 4. My wife...
Hello, Bill--- and welcome. I will give you "my take", which comes from the perspective of a survivor. But maybe I need to explain that I don't hold much truck...
-- Hi Kathy Thanks for the encouragement, I have read a libraries worth of books on the subject, but not the one you recommend I suppose one more is worth the...
Glad you found us!!! I too have had a long relationship ; 10 years/five married with a survivor. Did the counseling thing on and off for quite a while. Our...
