Looking for guidance on whether this is real or not. Met partner as she was divorcing her first husband. She barely batted an eyelid in the divorce. Didn't...
Don't slip into dispair over what Bailey is doing--- remember, this is HER lesson. It hurts to watch her go to another, who may not have the same degree of...
Are you familiar with the expression, "if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck"...?. You are very perceptive and have good...
Hi, [snip] This probably isn't going to be much use, but you're probably right - there's certainly going to be some key to this behaviour but you (like I)...
At the risk of sounding like a broken record….. My ex-wife didn’t bat and eye or shed a tear during our divorce. Considering that only a month before ...
i guess i might have been too cryptic. your gf sounds like she suffers from bordeline personality disorder (BPD)which is quite often co-morbid with CSA. i...
What a difference a day makes. I'm not feeling perfect today, but I'm definitely not in "freak out" mode like I was last night. I've accepted the fact that...
You sound good. Its also good to hear you recognize you may go through a lot of different periods of emotion in the next while, but if you ever are to be...
Sometimes I think I like to drive myself crazy..LOL Bailey was supposed to go back home today from visiting with this new girl, but she has decided to stay...
Vent all you need to... many here are listening, and understand your feelings-- your pain. You had something special-- something *magical* with Bailey... So...
Unfortunately, all this is very real. If she understands and is willing, she needs to be assessed by a professional therapist. From your description, it seems...
Simon, I read your post three times. I understand the cruelty. I walked away from some pretty major cruelty less than 2 weeks ago. My ex ( we had been seeing...
Hi I've been reading through these posts and have felt some encouragement and real advice from them. I am taking each day at a time at the moment. It's early...
I don't know that there's much difference (as far as being a partner is concerned) when it comes to the gender of the Survivor... to me, the differences are...
All, Thanks for all of your help - it was actually one of Kathy's earlier posts in response I think to Dom Bagnato that made me really think I could get some...
Yes, there are many of us out here who are partners/ex-partners/or something-in-between of male survivors.... as Kathy says, in the end it all goes beyond ...
I went out today to visit my cousin. I had a good time. We played with her baby and talked about her cheating husband. (I guess no one's life is perfect.)...
It seems like I spoke a bit too soon....All night my dreams involved Bailey and us being back together. I woke up on edge. My heart is still pounding. The...
It's true that breaking away from patterns of behavior that were not especially conducive to healing, and "being alone with herself" is a part of the healing...
It's hard being "the lighthouse"... that stable structure, full of light, which sits firmly on solid rock and acts as a homing-signal to your floundering...
Kathy, Anyone - Can anyone give me an understanding of what the discovery process is? Two days ago, 'S' finally apologised to me for putting me through two...
I'll do my best to reply to your questions and hope others will jump in, too. You ask: "Can anyone give me an understanding of what the discovery process is?" ...
Dom, I think survivors sometimes are extreme in the type of relationships they pursue. Most engage with what is familiar to them, but other times, for...
Well, I made a decision today. Bailey came home and called me and I told her that I wanted to remain her friend, and that I'd always be there for her, but...
In learning and reading about CSA, I think partners are much better prepared for how different a relationship will likely be with a survivor. Learning about...
All, I want to say an enormous enormous thanks. I went round to see S today. She had read "Courage to Heal", had read some checklists and read the postings....
Hi again, Sorry if this causes anyone any hassles but I'm going to cut in down the original message! ... I remember L's awakening. It wasn't down to me (though...
Hi, I'm new and may be asking an old question, but it is puzzling as hell to me, so I could use some insight. My GF is a victim of incest from her brother. It...
I think that what we have to continually remind ourselves when we're dealing with survivors is that they are not easily able to express or even recognize their...
