Ashley, Sounds like you have a pretty good understanding of what's happening in your relationship. You just need to analyze and take a step back from it to see...
Well, I'm a partner of a survivor. My story begins at the crisis point. We are on the verge of splitting. We've been married for 7 years. About 3 years into...
My girlfriend and I just spent 2 wonderful weeks together, and now at the end of the second week she repeats what she said before the 2 weeks started and that...
t, i don't have any words of advise other than you are not alone. donald ... __________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Yahoo! Calendar - Free online...
You decitate how you want to be treated.... Trust me, if your tired now wait till you've been in it awhile. If you don't have the emotion fortitude and/or she...
Thanks for the advice Actually we've been together almost 4 years and she's been through therapy before we ever met. But she needs to work on some things and ...
Ok, now with more info.... I can tell you from personal experience and from what I've learned that the push pull actually starts when the partner is starting...
This helps me a great deal. Thanks. It's true, she seems like she is wanting boundries or stipulations. I feel that is the direction we are headed. I've asked...
Thanks for your response.... It is true that love is suppose to be a certain way. However, it is never meant to take and take and take and take and take and...
Hi there.Your story is very close to mine, except I've procrastinated a lot.And we have been much longer together--20 years before the shit hit the fan, now 6...
I was so happy to hear about your vacation together; I actually was jealous. I've read alot of books on deal with survivors, and they've helped. But just...
As the other replies have indicated - you are not alone in how you feel, not by a long shot. I have been with my wife for over 8 years now. We have been...
My sister in law, is gay, due in part to her brother that abused her and of course my wife was abused also. So, I'm open to your plight if you don't mind...
... Being gay is NOT due to abuse. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not perpetuate that myth. For an excellent article on the "connection" between being gay and being...
Actually, it's simply that I think my sister in law simply doesn't trust men. She feels safer with women. Hence her choice to have a female partner. She, like...
Shelly, I thought about replying to you directly, but I might get more feedback from the group. I read the article you linked us to out of general interest,...
... The person in question is a trained and licensed psychotherapist who has dealt with this issue many, many times in the course of her practice. And she's...
... You're welcome. And thank YOU for being willing to change how you word things, for it's the subtle way we word things that keep alive the negative...
Yes, please do forward the article. The more information the better. Thanks again, Derrick __________________________________ Do you Yahoo!? Yahoo! Calendar -...
i just need some ideas about what i can ... Well, the challenge is that avoiding "making it worse" isn't the answer. Your partner is after all at the point in...
This may not be the most appropriate post, as I am dealing with a situation that has now ended and really what I need to do is find some way to reconcile...
Healing from abuse rape is such that people are never 100% healed... they are in a state of healing. There is a big difference between just beginning to heal...
Try not to feel guilty about this other friendship (I know, easier said than done). You're not an idiot. Everyone needs support-especially with this stuff....
w/o quoting you. I can 'slightly' relate. I have been in a relationship with a survivor, for the past ten months. Through my being told what she went...
To Michael-- You ask, "I wonder why they fail to realize that helping to create a more stable home life for the survivor can only work to helping them with...
There is no way that abuse can "make" someone gay, lesbian, or bi. If that were true, It seems to me that there would be a lot more GLBTI people in the world....
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