Hi. My name is Collin. I am 18, male, and from Canada. I was abused for several years by my biological father until he passed away (along with my mother and...
Hello, Collin, and welcome. Can your girlfriend get out of her current abusive family situation? Maybe if the folks here knew more, we could offer suggestions...
Hello. Thank you for the welcome. My girlfriend, at this point, is unable to leave the abusive situation. She has been trying for the past two years and has ...
I've been reading this board for awhile now and wasn't sure if I actually wanted to post here. Still not totally sure but I need some advice before I decide to...
Just as a comment. The person I am in a relationship with now has been through therapy already and has made tremendous progress even before I met her. But I...
I think I understand what you're going through. But I'm just curious by what you mean by "testing". I get pushed away, almost like a dare to love him despite...
Hi Ashley, Thanks for responding. I guess I need to decide if I should post details yet. Does your boyfriend know that you post on this board? If so, what does...
I haven't told him for a number of reasons. When I started posting, we were broken up, for a reason that I thought was minor. I just didn't understand what...
My partner has a bachlors in psycology and even though shes not a therapst, I still deal with the switch back to you .theydo have a point, I think when your...
I agree with Nikki, in believing this should be "your space" to say what you need to say and explore what needs to be explored, without worrying that your...
Thanks Ashley and Nikki for responding. It's a tough time right now for my girlfriend and I. Your messages have helped. I feel an obligation to discuss posting...
Nikki, there are 2 sentences you wrote that I can relate to. "We still have a long way to go, and sometimes I feel its hopeless other times I know Itll last...
I get pushed away, almost like a dare to love him despite the anger he shows me. They dont do this for a dare, Its a self esteem thing, its reflex usually and...
I am a 38 year old woman who has been with a male 39 year old sexual abuse survivor for 2 1/2 years. His abuse occurred around the age of 6. I don't know...
Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, things have been going well, or so I thought. I am in a quandry and need another perspective. My wife; a survivor,...
You seem to have a good perception of his problems. That's a good thing to build on. It seems that everything I've heard or read about childhood abuse is that ...
I want to reach out to you and say all will be well.I want to say I'll pray for you, and I will.But I want you also to know that the chances, from what you...
Hello, I think I can shed some light here.When a victim of sexual abuse is being...I guess I want to say tortured...a dissociation can help them get through...
Thanks Bill, I never wrapped it up like that. Do they ever come back ? I love her and I am glad we are sexual with eachother but it always feels like I am ...
Your partner may be having a difficult time connecting with you. By not being there, she is protecting herself from getting too close to you. Survivors were ...
You need to seperate his history from the affair. Decide if its something you can get past. What your doing is saying well he cheated but thats because he was...
Thank you so much Nikki. Are you a therapist? If not, you should be. Your reply to mrwaldonyc has helped me as well, as some of the issues she is dealing with...
Thank you all for your input and insight. I am so glad I found this board -- it seems to be a wonderful resource and I'm sure will be a great source of...
I have been married for about 1 1/2 years, but my wife and I have been together for over 8 years. She is a survivor of sexual abuse. She has known about it...
lol ~no but thank you and Im glad I helped you. Actualy Im a Lesbian, a feminist and a bartender. Im going to school majoring in sociology. What facinates me...
As a survivor, your wife needs to go through this at her own pace and in her own way. As a partner, you need to take care of your own needs. If you need to ...
Thank you for the reply. I have done some searching in some of the older posts, but only really found this board yesterday. The idea of dealing with my needs...
Do they ever come back? They heal at their own pace, and sometimes it just doesn't happen.As for me, I've kinda given up finally on her as my wife, but never...
That is a tragedy Bill. I hope and pray that you can work it out with her. But if it comes to pass that you have to leave, I would hope you could still...
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