I would like some suggestions on how to deal with all the hurt and anger I have towards my daughters father. He molested her for 9 years and I feel so helpless...
... all ... But ... I ... to ... deny ... abuse wouldn't it? Do all things happen for a reason? I'm not sure...but if I'm in a situation, I still ask what is...
... need to see a counselor. You can also read "allies in healing"--which is great. Don't blame yourself for the abuse!! You didn't do it. You have every right...
It has been some time since i have posted here. my partner is a survivor, and last summer we had a very rough time while she was dealing with some very...
Postnorthern55 I really appreciate your help. I will pick up that book and my daughter and I have both been to counselers. For a long time I did feel guilty...
... naive ... no ... and ... the ... Denial is certainly part of the abuse. At this stage however I can only see two paths for me. Keep loving and trying to...
... only ... anything ... much. ... Unless you directly put her in the position to be sexually assaulted, I do not think you should blame yourself. We are all...
kays: I know what you mean about "how can a person ruin another's life"...it totally evades me!! But, abuse doesn't have to totally ruin anyone's life. There...
Hi Simonshek: I think everything DOES happen for a reason.But we don't have to like it.I feel very much like you do sometimes.And sometimes I just want to give...
... only ... anything ... much. ... smile again. i feel so very lost. Hello m'dear.This is really tough.If you're at all spiritual, I suggest you pray.The...
... <no_reply@y...> ... she ... failed ... assaulted, ... strong ... being so honest about following advise!!!pn55 flower: I'm sorry-and Simon said it...
Since my husband told me what happened to him he has changed quite a bit, even more so since another "problem" non related popped up after a 6year absence. I'm...
... you ... Yes you are correct, we are both women. So no she does not confuse me with her abusers. But she jumps if i accidently brush her arm without...
... a ... after ... he ... best ... perpetrator ... word ... do ... loving, ... ideas ... I know that my partner has found the survivor sites to be very ...
flowersgr130: I am so sorry that this happened to your lover. I know it is very difficult for you both right now, but just keep being there and loving her....
Hello m'dear.Tell your husband he can talk to me at potterlike@... OR look for 'Visionsunpureabusenomore'.This seems to be a very quiet website where I...
... I ... for ... you ... will ... confuse ... Hi flowergrl.You have us here to talk with whenever you need us.It sounds like she's 'cocooning'-- holding...
You are soooo welcome.As for the anti-depressant, may I suggest you ask your doctor if 'Wellbutrin' would be a suitable replacement.The manufacturers claim...
kaysprout: I like your compassionate responses. You mention "church". We've not found many that allowed us to be us. So our family isn't involved at this time....
flowersgrl: thru being a partner of a survivor, I've learned a lot about love&comittment that I'd not have learned thru a "normal" relationship. We didn't...
Hello all.. I am requesting that Simonshek and DMK take over POS for a while. IF Simonshek or DMK do not want this, they can write me and I can remove the...
hi this is a first for me. my wife of 12 years has recently told me of some things that happened to her growing up. i don't quite know what to say just that...
... to ... touched ... hello there and welcome to the club.First, check out the previous posts.You will find mention of a book-Allies in Healing.Buy it. She is...
Hi everyone I'm happy to find a way to talk to someone who can understand my feelings I knew my wife 16 years ago, I get in love with her since the begining,...
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