Hello Simon: Your point is very well taken. I know I am Co-dependent and contribute to my partner's behavior. In retrospect, the extent to which I will go to...
Thank you too, Brenda. I was on the bottom for a long time, through my own doing, and some ignorance about what and how the human being and our minds and...
... Probably the best thing, if you haven't found out yet, is supplementing anything you're doing to cope (like on here) with some professional therapy. Find a...
Thank you Simon for your honesty. I think perhaps one of the biggest issues with applying and accepting such terms is the SAME for all of us human beings- WE...
Hello JP - I think your analyses of the tribe and it's customs verses what CSA's experience can be understood differently. When I read about the tribe I...
I think you're speaking of Margaret Mead's "Coming of Age in Samoa." As I recall, the idea of young people having sex with older ones was to teach them about...
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JP Your post troubles me. I won't go into each area that I take issue but I will say that without hope we can all 'hang it up.' Also, I think using the term...
my fiance has ptsd- currently we live a few hundred miles apart- she has ptsd- is in therapy and on meds---please help me learn how i can help support her....
I picked up a book about Archbishop Desmond Tutu, titled believe. The key that he stresses is that we need each other to be, human. That is the being part of...
Hi Group, I would like to introduce myself. I am new (1st day) and I am glad I found you. There are not too many resources out there for spouses of survivors...
In the past I've asked, several times here,if anyone knows of a live group for partners of survivors. There are many for the survivors themselves, but I've...
Hello Daniel, I guess no one knows of one in your area - but maybe if you called a rape hotline they may have some information - or refer you to some place...
Hi, I'm new to the group but fairly old to my relationship :) I've been with my partner for going on 8 years now and our relationship has suffered for 6 ½ of...
J., Yes, for sure. People grow and change. One of the problems is that everyone takes their own experience, subjective as that is, and assumes it applies to...
J, I sincerely think that if I could have gotten the understanding that I have now on co-dependence when the break down started, that my partner and I could...
I have been quiet for a long time now, only checking the site once in a blue moon to see if anyone from my time of need here has posted anything new. I am so...
Greetings everyone. Not only am I new to this group, but I'm new to a relationship with a survivor. We've been seeing each other for around four months,...
Thanks Carrie! ... in a blue moon to see if anyone from my time of need here has posted anything new. I am so very sad to see that the group has gotten so ...
Got a call from my ex, she told me our son was missing me, wanted to know if I would come and get him. The tone of her voice was blank and distant. I asked...
This is my first post. I have been with a woman for five years who has been abused sexually, physically, and mentally by people in her family her whole life....
Welcome to POS. Keep in mind your choice (is it really a choice?, some say not.) of attempting to be a boyfriend to her and at the same time friend to a...
Its good that you are seeking and getting counselling. Please continue with it. One can really sense the frustration you are feeling and going through. Based...
Hi Chris, First, I want to offer you my unconditional support in the myriad issues you're dealing with in your relationship with a survivor of sexual abuse. I...
I don't even know where to begin. I'm married to (well now separated) a survivor. When we met I told her how I usually attracted women that had had some form...
Gomez, I'm new to the message board but have been in several relationships with survivors (recently realized the need to be needed and to be a savior is MY...
Phil, Sadly I haven't even found one for myself. I will tell you an excellent book (and at the end they have some contacts for support groups). The book is...
my boyfriend told me in the beginning of our relationship that he had been raped as a child when he attended summer camp. At the time I really thought that he...
Well I am new to the forum too, but not to CSA. 22 years of marriage and several kids later, I am staring divorce in the face. My choice not hers. I will give...
My brother, you have come a long way to focus on yourself and get your mind right about who you are. I too, figured out how to eat right and lost 40 lbs in the...
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