Daniel, Thanks for checking in. Your empathy has been so helpful to me during this emotional odyssey. Yes. what a "new" life it is. I am keeping an open mind,...
I am so sad to see what this group has become. Some may remember me, some may not but this used to be a great place of healing for me. I have read a few of the...
I remember you daisy... long time baby... I get what you are saying. I have been pretty quiet on the board, everything with my partner is dissolved except for...
Hello... I have just read the recent posts and I agree with Daniel. It is a mistake to generalize survivors of CSA. With any human experience there are a...
Simon my friend! so good to hear you are doing well. You have been in my thoughts and prayers even though I haven't been on this board in a long time. I'm...
Patricia, you are right, EVERYONE is a bit screwed up. Not one person has live more than 20 years and not been through something in thier life that hasn't...
Does anyone know of a site for parents of both the molester and the victim? We are grieving for both of our children, and need to find a way to get through...
Hi Daisymae: I'm sorry my reply has taken so long. I see by your response that you totally understand my point. In reality wouldn't we all be very bored if...
Hi I'm glad to bave found this group, I have recently fallen in love with someone who has been abused. I can't choose who I fall in love with and I can already...
Welcome to the group JP. You're right, this is not going to be easy. In fact this may be the hardest thing you will ever do. But love is never a wasted...
Thanks.... Something that I have noticed recently is that when something happens, I say or do the wrong things (I'm still trying to work out what these things...
She may just be taking a time out to sort through what she is feeling. I do this too. Not because I want to cause stress to my partner but rather to avoid my...
One of the good things about this place is that we can share these kinds of feelings. There is so much we feel, in trying to love a CSA survivor, that seem...
Hello Daniel: I wanted to let you know that your posts are very helpful and much appreciated. Thank you, we're all with you too! Patricia ... CSA ... partners'...
okay yall gonna just get this out here. Daisy, love that you work for some sort of peace, a cure, I mean what is it that one is working towards matters, so...
Hello Simon: Your point is very well taken. I know I am Co-dependent and contribute to my partner's behavior. In retrospect, the extent to which I will go to...
Thank you too, Brenda. I was on the bottom for a long time, through my own doing, and some ignorance about what and how the human being and our minds and...
... Probably the best thing, if you haven't found out yet, is supplementing anything you're doing to cope (like on here) with some professional therapy. Find a...
Thank you Simon for your honesty. I think perhaps one of the biggest issues with applying and accepting such terms is the SAME for all of us human beings- WE...
Hello JP - I think your analyses of the tribe and it's customs verses what CSA's experience can be understood differently. When I read about the tribe I...
I think you're speaking of Margaret Mead's "Coming of Age in Samoa." As I recall, the idea of young people having sex with older ones was to teach them about...
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JP Your post troubles me. I won't go into each area that I take issue but I will say that without hope we can all 'hang it up.' Also, I think using the term...
my fiance has ptsd- currently we live a few hundred miles apart- she has ptsd- is in therapy and on meds---please help me learn how i can help support her....
I picked up a book about Archbishop Desmond Tutu, titled believe. The key that he stresses is that we need each other to be, human. That is the being part of...
Hi Group, I would like to introduce myself. I am new (1st day) and I am glad I found you. There are not too many resources out there for spouses of survivors...
In the past I've asked, several times here,if anyone knows of a live group for partners of survivors. There are many for the survivors themselves, but I've...
Hello Daniel, I guess no one knows of one in your area - but maybe if you called a rape hotline they may have some information - or refer you to some place...
Hi, I'm new to the group but fairly old to my relationship :) I've been with my partner for going on 8 years now and our relationship has suffered for 6 ½ of...
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