So sorry for your pain, and I hope you can find some consolation in the empathy from those of us in similar predicaments. You seem to know that after having...
I have to applaud you on the support you have given her, i know it's got to be hard on you. i know now i'm on the wrong group site but it's nice to see...
Dear Help me help her now, I think you are exactly right about your wife trying to finally be in control by saying that she intends to have sex with other...
Thank you for reading this and please i value everyones opinion on this site since we all share the same experiences and hardships. I posted a few times, I was...
... It would be interesting as to what your survivor would say if you said to her that maybe you needed to have some recreational sex with other people as...
What Ed said about fidelity is right on! My partner had 20 sexual partners (almost all one-nighters) before we got together. She said to me when she looked...
Dear Troubled Times: This is my "opinion" (I'm not clairvoyant.) I find your wife's behavior troubling. I am not saying I have never manipulated to get my...
After reading the responses of "Ed" and "the Original Slacker" I feel a need to clarify, retract and say Amen. First, let me clarify my situation. I am both a...
Hi everyone, I have been lurking for a while after finding this site my partner was sexually abuse phsycially and emotionally abused and kicked out of the...
Sorry to hear how things are going. i wouldn't worry about people judging you for who you love, i think that is your choice. we are all here for healing and to...
First and foremost you need to take care of your own health. Physical and mental health. Trust me I know the anger side to all of this way to well. My ex...
Lisa, I totally agree with Tim's post below. Nothing can be resolved until the survivor truly decides to invest him/herself in getting help. (Reading the books...
Hello All, I wanted to start by thanking Jonina for her candid explanation of her feelings as both a survivor and a partner of a survivor. It is really helpful...
First I want to thank fides73 S. Tim becca theoriginalslacker and ymmit32 for taking the time to read and respond to my post Im such a emotional train wreck...
I am new to this group. I just found it today. I am running out of places to turn and I am hoping to find some hope here. Where to begin.... My situation is...
Well above all your daughter has to come first. Given his history of sexual abuse of a minor I say cut the ties and move on. May seem cold and hard but I think...
ok.......... I am usually way more politically correct.....yet in this situation I am going to speak to you the same way I would to my family members or ...
I am an ex-partner to a survivor, though I remain a very close friend to her, we are there for each other but without the needs. I lost my struggle to retain...
Dear I need help; Yes, you do need help. I thought of responding earlier but my thought were more in line with lovey42875 so I thought I should think a moment...
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Hello everyone, Thank you for the replies that I received its been now almost three weeks asince I told my survior fiancee that we had to seperate I can tell...
Lisa, I'm very pleased for you because you sound much more positive. Although I still sense the pain, I know it's improved like I knew it would. I wanted to...
after 30+ yrs i could not go on any longer i would sleep for an hr or so a day and not eating that being so angrey i had laid there most of the night thinking...
Hello- I am new to the group and appreciate all the contributions. I am relieved to know I am not alone. My significant other was raped by a seminarian from...
... understand ... stop? ... feel ... He ... tried ... of ... find ... for ... Hi there Im Lisa and recently joined my self and have had some wonderful people...
Many times sex can be a trigger to memories of abuse. It's very common. It's not your fault. He needs to be in counseling or things will just continue the way...
that was one of the things that made me get help i did not want sex and i did not want to be with my wife anymore or any one else . i just can not tell her...
After reading all of the most recent postings in the month or so since I've posted... The term rollercoaster seems all too perfect for the situation I now find...
Hi everyone posted before as the lurker no more LOL, Anyway talked with my gf 2 days ago tried my best not to say anything that might upset her seems that is a...
Lisa, She has been setting the tone of your communication and relationship for the longest time, and you have obliged because you care. However, your gut...
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